What is the name of your state? Florida
I'm 24 and the father is 22. We do not get along, I think mainly because we got pregnant the minute we started dating and the relationship lasted only 2 months because of the stress and fighting. I was really hormonal and quick to yell at him when he annoyed me. At the same time, he said that I was using the pregnancy as an excuse to be mean and would not read up or talk to any doctors about hormones and depression during pregnancy. He told me that I should be able to overcome my bad moods and deal with it. Eventually I did realize that I was having an anger problem and so I told him that I was going to ask the doc for help at my next apt. I started to get a little bit better about the yelling and stuff but then he started not calling me when he was going to be late (and he was using my car for the past 2 months because his has been broken down) and would come home sometimes as much as 3 hours late. He also stopped showering in a normal manner. He would go 3 to 4 days without showering saying that his work had him to tired to do it. He was also giving me a hard time about money for groceries, wanting to only give me $40 for two weeks worth of groceries when he had over a grand in the closet and over $1500 at his parents house and makes around $100-$200 a day as a bartendar. I ended up breaking up with him because I couldn't deal with living with these issues.
Since the break up he has missed the one and only doctors apt that I asked him to go to. He lied to me about having someone to cover for him at work when he really didn't. Now he's trying to convince me that I'm crazy and that he had explained to me before why the girl didn't come in that day. My cousin came over last night and told me that Tim (my ex) told him that I punched him in the face. This is NOT true. One night we had been fighting for an hour and for that whole ENTIRE hour I kept telling him to leave (the apartment is in my name only) and he wouldn't get out of the house. I was worried about me being so upset and pregnant and the effects on the baby. He wouldn't leave me alone. At one point I was in the bathtub taking a bath and he was standing next to it yelling at me. I got sick of it, stood up and shoved him about four times telling him for the hundredth time to LEAVE. After I shoved him most of the way away from my I through a punch at his arm, which is wrong I know--but I didn't him him anywhere near the face. Also the same night, previous to that I got so mad I told him that I might hit him becasue I was really losing my temper. He told me to do it and I said that I didn't want to, that was the point. But he kept on yelling at me and wouldn't leave and so I snapped a litte.
I went over to his parents this morning to ask him why he was telling people that I punched him in the face. We ended up getting in a big arguement and apparently his friend at work found stuff that I wrote about him on my journal on the internet and printed it out for him. Now he says he's going to sue me for slander, which I know he can't do becasue you first have to prove that what I wrote was a lie (and it wasn't) and then prove that it brought him down somehow in the eyes of society. He's also talking about a restraining order. He also says that I don't have a choice about him being in the delivery room because he's the father. AND he says that when I have the baby I have to let him take her without me coming along even though I'm going to breastfeed. I also have issues with him taking her because 1) he has a drinking problem, and 2) I've never seen him around babies before and I don't want him to take my child without me until I'm sure that he knows how to handle things well.
I am currently on Zoloft now becasue I did ask the doc for help and he's berating me for taking "drugs" while being pregnant even though I told him that they've done studies and tests on it. Also when we broke up I asked him to get us counceling for the simple fact that we need to learn how to get along better for the baby's sake, it's been 3 weeks since he was supposed to do that, he hasn't done it. My insurance won't cover it and his does. He is also really trying to convince me that I'm crazy because of the rants that I wrote on my online journal when I was mad at him at different times. Also he seems to remember almost EVERYTHING differently then I do and is trying to convince me that I'm crazy because I can't remember how things really happened in problems we've had in the past. I have NEVER had anyone tell me that before and never had so many "supposed" problems remembering things correctly so I know he can't be right about all of it. I admitt that through human error and perception I might remember some things wrong, but not ALL of them.
Another big issue that I"m worried about is that he has an "under the table" paying job. And his job pays him really well but there's no record of it. So what's going to happen when I file for child support??
My father says that I'm overreacting to this and that Tim doesn't have any case against me (he read all the stuff I wrote about him) and refuses to help me financially get a lawyer until when/if Tim files something against me. But I've been really worried about it because I have NO clue what my rights are.
I am currently 13 and a half weeks pregnant and also I'm not contacting the father anymore because all we do is fight and I think it's just better to leave it alone. But I still want to be prepared if he does something.
What are my rights? What should I do?
I'm 24 and the father is 22. We do not get along, I think mainly because we got pregnant the minute we started dating and the relationship lasted only 2 months because of the stress and fighting. I was really hormonal and quick to yell at him when he annoyed me. At the same time, he said that I was using the pregnancy as an excuse to be mean and would not read up or talk to any doctors about hormones and depression during pregnancy. He told me that I should be able to overcome my bad moods and deal with it. Eventually I did realize that I was having an anger problem and so I told him that I was going to ask the doc for help at my next apt. I started to get a little bit better about the yelling and stuff but then he started not calling me when he was going to be late (and he was using my car for the past 2 months because his has been broken down) and would come home sometimes as much as 3 hours late. He also stopped showering in a normal manner. He would go 3 to 4 days without showering saying that his work had him to tired to do it. He was also giving me a hard time about money for groceries, wanting to only give me $40 for two weeks worth of groceries when he had over a grand in the closet and over $1500 at his parents house and makes around $100-$200 a day as a bartendar. I ended up breaking up with him because I couldn't deal with living with these issues.
Since the break up he has missed the one and only doctors apt that I asked him to go to. He lied to me about having someone to cover for him at work when he really didn't. Now he's trying to convince me that I'm crazy and that he had explained to me before why the girl didn't come in that day. My cousin came over last night and told me that Tim (my ex) told him that I punched him in the face. This is NOT true. One night we had been fighting for an hour and for that whole ENTIRE hour I kept telling him to leave (the apartment is in my name only) and he wouldn't get out of the house. I was worried about me being so upset and pregnant and the effects on the baby. He wouldn't leave me alone. At one point I was in the bathtub taking a bath and he was standing next to it yelling at me. I got sick of it, stood up and shoved him about four times telling him for the hundredth time to LEAVE. After I shoved him most of the way away from my I through a punch at his arm, which is wrong I know--but I didn't him him anywhere near the face. Also the same night, previous to that I got so mad I told him that I might hit him becasue I was really losing my temper. He told me to do it and I said that I didn't want to, that was the point. But he kept on yelling at me and wouldn't leave and so I snapped a litte.
I went over to his parents this morning to ask him why he was telling people that I punched him in the face. We ended up getting in a big arguement and apparently his friend at work found stuff that I wrote about him on my journal on the internet and printed it out for him. Now he says he's going to sue me for slander, which I know he can't do becasue you first have to prove that what I wrote was a lie (and it wasn't) and then prove that it brought him down somehow in the eyes of society. He's also talking about a restraining order. He also says that I don't have a choice about him being in the delivery room because he's the father. AND he says that when I have the baby I have to let him take her without me coming along even though I'm going to breastfeed. I also have issues with him taking her because 1) he has a drinking problem, and 2) I've never seen him around babies before and I don't want him to take my child without me until I'm sure that he knows how to handle things well.
I am currently on Zoloft now becasue I did ask the doc for help and he's berating me for taking "drugs" while being pregnant even though I told him that they've done studies and tests on it. Also when we broke up I asked him to get us counceling for the simple fact that we need to learn how to get along better for the baby's sake, it's been 3 weeks since he was supposed to do that, he hasn't done it. My insurance won't cover it and his does. He is also really trying to convince me that I'm crazy because of the rants that I wrote on my online journal when I was mad at him at different times. Also he seems to remember almost EVERYTHING differently then I do and is trying to convince me that I'm crazy because I can't remember how things really happened in problems we've had in the past. I have NEVER had anyone tell me that before and never had so many "supposed" problems remembering things correctly so I know he can't be right about all of it. I admitt that through human error and perception I might remember some things wrong, but not ALL of them.
Another big issue that I"m worried about is that he has an "under the table" paying job. And his job pays him really well but there's no record of it. So what's going to happen when I file for child support??
My father says that I'm overreacting to this and that Tim doesn't have any case against me (he read all the stuff I wrote about him) and refuses to help me financially get a lawyer until when/if Tim files something against me. But I've been really worried about it because I have NO clue what my rights are.
I am currently 13 and a half weeks pregnant and also I'm not contacting the father anymore because all we do is fight and I think it's just better to leave it alone. But I still want to be prepared if he does something.
What are my rights? What should I do?