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What is "reasonable" phone calls for my ex to call my son?

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For me, there is nobody that is going to love Lil Bit as much as me, except for her Daddy. And quite frankly, I want my child to become an autonomous human being. I don't want her to be overly dependent on me. She has the right to have a relationship with her Dad without interference from me, as I do with her. I love her like crazy, but I don't want to be the center of her universe. (Doesn't mean that I don't miss her tons when she's not with me).

When she's with Dad I give them space. And Dad does the same thing for her when she is with me. So I quite frankly,don't get the compulsion to call a child multiple times a day when they are with the other parent, but to each their own. I will say that I do understand when one parent might become irritated when certain routines, such as bedtime, are perpetually ignored. (Whether this is by a CP or a NCP).
I completely agree with this statement! It appears that a parent that is calling a few times a day and forcing a 5 year old to converse (and how stimulating are the conversations, anyway, with that many phone calls) is doing it for themselves, not for the child. Once a day imo is excessive...when my daughter is gone for a couple of weeks at a time during summer, I don't call her any more than once or twice...I respect her father's time with her! Why should he have his parenting time interrupted by my whining that I miss her? He shouldn't! I don't blame the dad in this case for calling, he misses the child, but come on, 2 or 3 times a day? Seems rather selfish. I would NEVER do that during my ex's parenting time.
 


jbowman

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So, is that the whole issue with calling too much? That is is disrespectful to the other parent? Can't that parent just swallow it and not make a big deal about it? Whatever the reason that a parent wants to speak with their child -- missing them, etc., how does it HURT the other parent? Why make it a fight? IMO, if you just let it happen, chances are the calls may become less frequent if the other parent realizes that you just dont really care--if they are indeed calling just to bug YOU, the other parent.
 

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