Did I, or did I not also mention. Oh yeah, I did - "We don't know if the reason for this split was DV or not, as such it doesn't make much sense to speculate either way. Right now it is garbage in, garbage out."
And I also made mention to the fact that the advice changes if there was a DV or restraining order out there. So yeah, I did cover that as well "unless the OP has an order restraining them from contacting the ex...."
So, yeah, if you actually read my post you'd see that I covered off your concerns.