What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
My husband and I have been married for eight years. He has physical custody of the two girls and shares joint legal custody with their mother. He is in the Navy and deploys often. This past year, it was really difficult for me to get the children care even with a specific power of attorney and a general power of attorney.
Their mother is in their life and sees them approximately every other weekend. She does not have a very flexible schedule so when I am taking the girls to the doctor, picking them up from school, etc, she cannot do it if the doctor or school will not accept the POA. I take care of them on a day to day basis when their father is deployed. (This past year he was gone 314 days of 365).
Is it possible to make me a legal guardian to the kids even though their mother and father are both still living? We have tried the power-of-attorney and have experienced so many problems with them over the years. I in no way am trying to take anything from their mother (and she knows this), but if Virginia law allowed me to be a legal guardian it would make everything so much easier. My husband is supportive of this as well as the kids (they are 16 and 14 now and we have a close relationship).
Any advice would be appreciated.