"When did this happen? Before or after the custody determination?"
Custody was determined during the divorce and this was the cause for CPS involvement.
You did not answer the question asked. The question was "did mom go to jail for assaulting your fiancée before or after custody was determined? That answer is either before or after. Which is it?
"Where does Grandpa live? With Mom?"
Same apartment complex with grandma who is constantly watching the children even though CPS told her she needs to be supervised while in the home.
So, grandpa lives with grandma and grandma watches the child. Therefore grandma is supervising grandpa's contact with the child. Although I believe that you are exaggerating about the "constantly". Mom is legally blind, cannot drive and is living on disability. I doubt very much that mom needs someone to watch the child "constantly".
"She has stable housing then - that's a good thing."
She's been robbed by gun point twice.
That has nothing to do with whether or not housing is stable. Stable housing means housing that cannot just disappear overnight. That stable housing might be located in a higher crime area than where you live, but that does not make it unstable.
"Nobody "always" does anything ... so what are you really telling us here?"
She comes back sick and hungry. I'm not exaggerating when I say ALWAYS.
Hungry I could buy, always sick? Nope.
False or unproven?
False. She fabricated evidence against me when she found out I was seeing someone.
No nice at all, but so far, all you've got.
"She's on disability - just what do you want her to pay? That aside, what have you DONE about this?"
I want her to pay her half like she agreed to do. I'm taking her to court in the next two months.
She is on disability. The judge might very well find that her failure to pay is because she simply cannot pay. In that case, it may cause the judge to view you unfavorably for going after a legally blind woman who lives on disability.
"But they haven't seen fit to remove the child, have they?"
In the judges words "she's on her last straw"
That mean not have the kind of teeth you expect it to have.
"No. What actually happened is that Mom is the child's primary caregiver and the courts are typically reluctant to change that without having a darn good reason for doing so. You work, right? So who would be looking after the child while you work? Why should the child be with a third party when she has a parent available?"
Her mother has another child she tried giving up her parental rights to because she wasn't mentally capable of taking care of him. I work yes but I make my own schedule. I'm home to cook for her, bathe her, spend quality time with her and take her to all of her appointments.
You still have to work during the time she is with you. Mom can be with her 24/7.
She had gotten sick and mom couldn't find a ride and hid it from me for two weeks and my daughter ended up have pneumonia.
If you have a 50/50 timeshare that is just as much on you as on mom.
"When was custody determined, and what has CHANGED since then? Are you looking at more parenting time, or a change in custody? What is the current timeshare?"
It's 50/50 but mom is fighting for 75/25
So mom is the one who is fighting to modify the timeshare, not you? That is seriously burying the lead dad. Is this happening because the child is starting school and the fact that you are in San Diego and mom is in LA means that the current timeshare will no longer work? Who moved and created the distance? Why was that move necessary? It sounds like you need to be more forthcoming on the backstory.
And I'd like you to be very, very honest here ... are you actually Dad's fiancee?
No I am not.
So you are actually dad and not some other member of dad's family?