Ziggishark
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
I have 2 boys, one is 3years old and I am his father but me and my soon to be ex wife were not married when he was born, and the other is 14 months old and me and her were married when he was born.
I am seeking advice on how to go about custody and an opinion on whether or not my wife should get major visitation rights.
Their mother keeps the boys in a very small room that is so very cluttered my son cannot walk out the 3 foot path from the crib to the wall to get to the door from his bed, the house has health violations from how dirty it is including mold from leaving food out for weeks, has assaulted me while holding my 3 year old because I came to pick him up (she had agreed to me getting him but changed her mind), refuses to fill out forms to ensure the boys get child care (they have been denied 4 times because of her), she cannot keep a steady job and currently works from 8-9 every day, she has made multiple threats to take away my children and never allow me to see them again if I don't do exactly what she says when she says it (dropping everything to take the boys to an appointment because she didn't want to, pay her phone bill, pay to fix her crashed car etc), refused to make payments to the boys childcare facility and medical bills, plans to take the boys only for 2 days but then changes that to over a week without notice, regularly fights with me in front of the children and on one occasion that I'm aware of refused to feed the boys lunch because she didn't feel like cooking. The assault, dirty home, and refusal to feed the boys has been reported with child services with little help though and I have documented proof of the incidents. When I spoke to a police officer (about the assault) he stated that I could be charged with child endangerment because I tried to take the boys from their mother and she has 'momma bear syndrome' and told her she has 100% legal rights to my older son and can forcibly take him at any point and if I say she can't take both of my boys (she won't just take my oldest) to immediately call the police.
Their mom wants the boys with full custody or joint custody where she gets them for a full week every other week although she has made it clear she can't take them that long and still work and absolutely refuses to even consider any other option that would work best for the boys. (I proposed she get them Friday at 6 after her work, to Monday at 4 and I will get them from daycare, as well as have them when she is off work and I have a break from college) What should I do? Should I fight for my boys in court or just let her win? She was a good mother at one point about a year or so ago then her dad died and she became a mess for lack of better wording. She claims to be bipolar and makes the excuse she can't take care of the boys or clean the house because of her depression as well as self medicates. Is it possible she could get full custody/week on week off? Could I even get custody of my boys? Help me please
I have 2 boys, one is 3years old and I am his father but me and my soon to be ex wife were not married when he was born, and the other is 14 months old and me and her were married when he was born.
I am seeking advice on how to go about custody and an opinion on whether or not my wife should get major visitation rights.
Their mother keeps the boys in a very small room that is so very cluttered my son cannot walk out the 3 foot path from the crib to the wall to get to the door from his bed, the house has health violations from how dirty it is including mold from leaving food out for weeks, has assaulted me while holding my 3 year old because I came to pick him up (she had agreed to me getting him but changed her mind), refuses to fill out forms to ensure the boys get child care (they have been denied 4 times because of her), she cannot keep a steady job and currently works from 8-9 every day, she has made multiple threats to take away my children and never allow me to see them again if I don't do exactly what she says when she says it (dropping everything to take the boys to an appointment because she didn't want to, pay her phone bill, pay to fix her crashed car etc), refused to make payments to the boys childcare facility and medical bills, plans to take the boys only for 2 days but then changes that to over a week without notice, regularly fights with me in front of the children and on one occasion that I'm aware of refused to feed the boys lunch because she didn't feel like cooking. The assault, dirty home, and refusal to feed the boys has been reported with child services with little help though and I have documented proof of the incidents. When I spoke to a police officer (about the assault) he stated that I could be charged with child endangerment because I tried to take the boys from their mother and she has 'momma bear syndrome' and told her she has 100% legal rights to my older son and can forcibly take him at any point and if I say she can't take both of my boys (she won't just take my oldest) to immediately call the police.
Their mom wants the boys with full custody or joint custody where she gets them for a full week every other week although she has made it clear she can't take them that long and still work and absolutely refuses to even consider any other option that would work best for the boys. (I proposed she get them Friday at 6 after her work, to Monday at 4 and I will get them from daycare, as well as have them when she is off work and I have a break from college) What should I do? Should I fight for my boys in court or just let her win? She was a good mother at one point about a year or so ago then her dad died and she became a mess for lack of better wording. She claims to be bipolar and makes the excuse she can't take care of the boys or clean the house because of her depression as well as self medicates. Is it possible she could get full custody/week on week off? Could I even get custody of my boys? Help me please