softballmom16
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Illinois
If my daughter is staying with her Dad, am I obligated to give him back the child support?
I have sole legal custody of my 13 year old daughter. My ex and I have been separated for 5 years, divorced for 3 years. 9 Months ago my boyfriend moved in with me and my daughter (My boyfriend has never been anything but nice to my daughter and me). Well she didn't like it and neither did my ex husband. Ever since then my ex husband puts down my boyfriend to my daughter, has revealed divorce details to my daughter. Says negative things about me and my family to my daughter. My daughter started lashing out and disobeying me and not caring about anyone in "my" family. Talking back, she is even physically abusive to me. He almost suceeded in totally turning her against me. I had her going to counseling (which she didn't like)--I would go with her sometimes. Her Dad would tell her that she doesn't need counseling that I do because I am whacko, etc, etc. Anyway she went to stay with her Dad for a while. Which totally tore me apart but has turned out to be a good thing for her and I. She is going to be moving back with me at the end of this month. She will have stayed with her Dad for about 3 months. During this time he wanted me to give him back child support. I told him if he wanted child support from me to get the law involved. Am I obligated to return child support to him?
The funny thing is, is that if he were not so nasty to me, I probably would have given it back. He calls me names---and I mean not nice names in front of my daughter. He stopped paying me for his portion of her braces, medical bills, etc last Sept. He even went as far as having my phone shut off. -because it was still in his name even though I had been paying the bill for the last 5 years. anyway that's another storyWhat is the name of your state?
If my daughter is staying with her Dad, am I obligated to give him back the child support?
I have sole legal custody of my 13 year old daughter. My ex and I have been separated for 5 years, divorced for 3 years. 9 Months ago my boyfriend moved in with me and my daughter (My boyfriend has never been anything but nice to my daughter and me). Well she didn't like it and neither did my ex husband. Ever since then my ex husband puts down my boyfriend to my daughter, has revealed divorce details to my daughter. Says negative things about me and my family to my daughter. My daughter started lashing out and disobeying me and not caring about anyone in "my" family. Talking back, she is even physically abusive to me. He almost suceeded in totally turning her against me. I had her going to counseling (which she didn't like)--I would go with her sometimes. Her Dad would tell her that she doesn't need counseling that I do because I am whacko, etc, etc. Anyway she went to stay with her Dad for a while. Which totally tore me apart but has turned out to be a good thing for her and I. She is going to be moving back with me at the end of this month. She will have stayed with her Dad for about 3 months. During this time he wanted me to give him back child support. I told him if he wanted child support from me to get the law involved. Am I obligated to return child support to him?
The funny thing is, is that if he were not so nasty to me, I probably would have given it back. He calls me names---and I mean not nice names in front of my daughter. He stopped paying me for his portion of her braces, medical bills, etc last Sept. He even went as far as having my phone shut off. -because it was still in his name even though I had been paying the bill for the last 5 years. anyway that's another storyWhat is the name of your state?