Bio-Father - advice on additional CS
What is the name of your state? IL
I am the father of 2 boys. I have never resided or lived with the mother. I went to court for our first child and we agreed on joint custody - she has physical custody of both. I pay child support for the children and I cover both of them on my health insurance. Here is where the problem starts. I pay her on the side additional money for our youngest (we never went to court.) In the past 7 years she hasn't held a full time job and has bounced from residence to residence. She claims to be going to school but no degree has ever ben obtained. She also collects public aid. I believe she collects it because she claims I don't pay cs on our youngest. I have a well paying job and have been ther 15+ years. She has once again moved and into a more expensive area where day care has increased along with her rent. She is now asking me to pay her an additional $1,000 a month. I know I should get a lawyer but what am I truely expected to pay for. I will pay whatever is right and support my children but shouldn't this woman start working to help pay for expenses?
Additional info - I have never missed a payment or a weekend with them. I have helped her out financially also when she' gotten herself into trouble. In addition to all that she uses my family as her free babysitters at least 5-6 times a month.
Advice? anyone
What is the name of your state? IL
I am the father of 2 boys. I have never resided or lived with the mother. I went to court for our first child and we agreed on joint custody - she has physical custody of both. I pay child support for the children and I cover both of them on my health insurance. Here is where the problem starts. I pay her on the side additional money for our youngest (we never went to court.) In the past 7 years she hasn't held a full time job and has bounced from residence to residence. She claims to be going to school but no degree has ever ben obtained. She also collects public aid. I believe she collects it because she claims I don't pay cs on our youngest. I have a well paying job and have been ther 15+ years. She has once again moved and into a more expensive area where day care has increased along with her rent. She is now asking me to pay her an additional $1,000 a month. I know I should get a lawyer but what am I truely expected to pay for. I will pay whatever is right and support my children but shouldn't this woman start working to help pay for expenses?
Additional info - I have never missed a payment or a weekend with them. I have helped her out financially also when she' gotten herself into trouble. In addition to all that she uses my family as her free babysitters at least 5-6 times a month.
Advice? anyone
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