What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
My ex and I have been divorced for 5 years. We have 2 children now 15 & 10. We originally agreed to a standard Shared Parenting Plan. We lived in the same area so she would have them 5 days out of the week and I would have them 5 days out of the following week (majority of the time more). In the shared parenting plan I have to pay $377.00 per month per child which I do. I am required to carry the medical insurance and then we split equally the uncovered expenses. We split equally all school and extracurricular expenses. This had worked fine as the children's school and extracurricular expenses were the same as before we were divcorced. Last June after a year long court battle she moved here and the children to Florida. There is a new visitation order in effect since the move that the children are here once a month for at least a weekend and my ex is responsible for all travel expenses. That was her offer so that I would allow her to move. Since she moved she has began just sending me these receipts and uncancelled checks and cash receipts for activites and expenses I have never agreed to and told I have to pay half. She is signing them up for all these arbitrary activites, jet ski lessons, lacrosse etc. Also she is sending me receipts for new equipment at the start of every activity. For example I know as well as anyone my children don't need a new set of cleats every 6 weeks when a new session starts or a new soccer ball for every session. She knew she couldn't get away with this before because I could see that the cleats they had fit just fine and were in good shape.
These expenses are in excess of $300.00 per month and I just can't afford it my questions are...
1.) Am I in my rights to reguire she ask for my agreement prior to signing them up for anything and if I don't agree and can't afford it tell her that up front and if she decides to do it it is at her expense.
2.) Am I in my rights to require that she send me copies of the cancelled checks (anyone can write a check and not pay it, which she would do) and that I will not except cash receipts as proof (anyone can buy a receipt book at Staples)
3.) Any suggestions on anything I can to limit the "new" equipment she purchases every other week? I beleive she is purchasing it sending me the receipts and then taking it back.
Also please note she has not abided by and sent the children 5 out of the past 8 months she was ordered to, because she can't afford it or because I did not reimburse her for all the expenses for that month yet. Can she do that when there are no conditions in the new visitation order that she is responsible for the travel expenses?
Thanks in advance!!