reallytired
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Missouri
We have a 17 year old son in a sexual offender treatment program due to his abuse to his younger brother. He is in this program due to a court order. He is in the custody of the Division of Family Services.
Prior to this offense we had lost the ability to control him over the last two years. He does not seem to want to listen to any person of authority. He had become violent towards his younger brother and his mother.
The staff at the program he is in, now say that they too can no longer control him and he has stalled in his progress. And there is nothing else they can do for him. Our last visit with him he, in no uncertain terms, stated to us that he will do whatever he wants and no one can stop him.
Child Support Enforcement is now asking for a substantial amount of money each month, plus medical coverage. This is money that we do not have as we are a paycheck to paycheck family.
Our younger son seems to have gotten past the abuse and is now very focused on his future. We are trying to create a "normal", positive and productive family environment for him. But this new monthly child support would hurt us very bad financially. It could very well cause us to lose our home and/or a vehicle (which we need to get to work).
We spoke, very briefly, with an attorney (who did not seem interested in what we had to say). He told us that there was nothing that could be done and that we would have to find a way to pay the support, even if it meant we did lose our home.
Surely there is some way to not allow "one child to destroy the family".
Our oldest son will be 18 on 1/23/05 and will graduate high school in May. We love both our children very much, but cannot continue to allow him to continually hurt the rest of the family.
We are wondering if severing parental rights is an option and would it do us any good. And if so, how do we go about it.
Any information would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Really Tired
We have a 17 year old son in a sexual offender treatment program due to his abuse to his younger brother. He is in this program due to a court order. He is in the custody of the Division of Family Services.
Prior to this offense we had lost the ability to control him over the last two years. He does not seem to want to listen to any person of authority. He had become violent towards his younger brother and his mother.
The staff at the program he is in, now say that they too can no longer control him and he has stalled in his progress. And there is nothing else they can do for him. Our last visit with him he, in no uncertain terms, stated to us that he will do whatever he wants and no one can stop him.
Child Support Enforcement is now asking for a substantial amount of money each month, plus medical coverage. This is money that we do not have as we are a paycheck to paycheck family.
Our younger son seems to have gotten past the abuse and is now very focused on his future. We are trying to create a "normal", positive and productive family environment for him. But this new monthly child support would hurt us very bad financially. It could very well cause us to lose our home and/or a vehicle (which we need to get to work).
We spoke, very briefly, with an attorney (who did not seem interested in what we had to say). He told us that there was nothing that could be done and that we would have to find a way to pay the support, even if it meant we did lose our home.
Surely there is some way to not allow "one child to destroy the family".
Our oldest son will be 18 on 1/23/05 and will graduate high school in May. We love both our children very much, but cannot continue to allow him to continually hurt the rest of the family.
We are wondering if severing parental rights is an option and would it do us any good. And if so, how do we go about it.
Any information would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Really Tired