I know my situation is odd to say the least. DH wife had an affair, got pregnant and this child doesn't belong to my dh. "Secret" DNA test done and nobody knows except dh and myself. It would be nice for the cs to stop because of this reason alone but it isn't going to happen. We do care and love this child that we now never get to see because of her living so far away (mom won't let her fly and a weekend trip would be just getting there in enough time to get back for work in a car). I don't want her to drop out of school. I really want what is best for her. Chances are very good of her dropping out because from what we hear from her brother (my dh's natural son that lives with us) she doesn't go to school very often now. We could use the info to let the mother know if she drops out then we (yes we)won't have to pay. We could also use it to stop paying cs if that is the law. In the long run, the mother wouldn't want to give up cs and would "encourage" her to attend school more often. So both situations come into play.