beautifulmama
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IL
Hi everyone!
I'm a 26 year old mother of 2. I was in a relationship w/ a man for 6 years & we conceived 2 children. Long story short, he broke it off with me & got married a week later. (I knew nothing of another woman) I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd child 2 weeks after this. He wanted me to get an abortion & I did not. He claims that I entrapped him by birthing a baby he did not want. He wants a relationship with our 1st child but not with his son. We had a spoken agreement that he would have every other weekend with our daughter but every time there was a pick up/drop off he was disrespectful & making threats. I was pregnant at this time & asked him for a court ordered agreement regarding her visitation b/c I felt unsafe in his presence. i simply wanted a pick up/ drop off where we weren't in each other's presence. There was never court ordered visitation. I filed for child support after a year of him being completely absent as a father. Here are my questions...
1. Do fathers have right to be an active father to the children of their choice?
2. Can the statement "I'll take care of my own children, I don't need you for anything" be used against me in court?
3. Can the fact that I asked him to resign visitation until there was a court order be used against me as withholding my child even if it was for my own safety?
Thank you for taking the time to read all of this.
Hi everyone!
I'm a 26 year old mother of 2. I was in a relationship w/ a man for 6 years & we conceived 2 children. Long story short, he broke it off with me & got married a week later. (I knew nothing of another woman) I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd child 2 weeks after this. He wanted me to get an abortion & I did not. He claims that I entrapped him by birthing a baby he did not want. He wants a relationship with our 1st child but not with his son. We had a spoken agreement that he would have every other weekend with our daughter but every time there was a pick up/drop off he was disrespectful & making threats. I was pregnant at this time & asked him for a court ordered agreement regarding her visitation b/c I felt unsafe in his presence. i simply wanted a pick up/ drop off where we weren't in each other's presence. There was never court ordered visitation. I filed for child support after a year of him being completely absent as a father. Here are my questions...
1. Do fathers have right to be an active father to the children of their choice?
2. Can the statement "I'll take care of my own children, I don't need you for anything" be used against me in court?
3. Can the fact that I asked him to resign visitation until there was a court order be used against me as withholding my child even if it was for my own safety?
Thank you for taking the time to read all of this.