What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL
I'll try to keep this as brief as possible to save ya'll the drama. Situation involves ex (again) and there are no current orders for either child support or custody. Time came to pay for the end of year school trip for oldest kiddo. Cost was $100 plus another $100 for expenses. I told dad this weeks ago and have kept him up to date as to when payment was due and asked he pay for half. He agreed until time came to actually pay. Then it became how he didn't have money and how he was about to get cell phone shut off etc etc. Same song and dance as usual so I ended up paying the entire amount myself. Well literally the day after dad comes to pick kiddo up for the day and low n behold there are brand new rims on his tires. Hubs happened to catch this and lost his temper (after kiddo left of course) and said he had had enough of the situation and blames me for being "too nice" to dad by not going back for another round of child support orders. Says hes tired of spending money on kiddo (i'm not currently working due to our newest child having severe medical issues) while dad gets to do whatever he wants and that i'm encouraging it and taking advantage of hubs. So he says I either go back and attempt to gain another order for support or he will leave until I do. The last time I attempted support orders it dragged on for nearly 2 years and never came to anything. Every single time we went before magistrate ex would give some song n dance and boom, orders would be temporarily halted until the blah blah blah could be resolved. This nonsense dragged on so long that ex eventually left the state and that was the end of it per the CSE's stating he could not be found. Case was inevitably closed. This is precisely the reason I haven't attempted things again because I know here in FL that its useless. But hubs is very angry and rightfully so which brings me to my question. If I were to go back and file again would it be better to go through a private attorney or would it be just as slow as going through the state? I don't want another situation where he gets to use the court to his advantage but i'm now backed into a corner. If I were to go through the state again would they have records of previous dealings or is it like starting all over again? I do know that ex now has an official job (quit job where he was a 1099) and now lives locally. Would this help move things along?
I'll try to keep this as brief as possible to save ya'll the drama. Situation involves ex (again) and there are no current orders for either child support or custody. Time came to pay for the end of year school trip for oldest kiddo. Cost was $100 plus another $100 for expenses. I told dad this weeks ago and have kept him up to date as to when payment was due and asked he pay for half. He agreed until time came to actually pay. Then it became how he didn't have money and how he was about to get cell phone shut off etc etc. Same song and dance as usual so I ended up paying the entire amount myself. Well literally the day after dad comes to pick kiddo up for the day and low n behold there are brand new rims on his tires. Hubs happened to catch this and lost his temper (after kiddo left of course) and said he had had enough of the situation and blames me for being "too nice" to dad by not going back for another round of child support orders. Says hes tired of spending money on kiddo (i'm not currently working due to our newest child having severe medical issues) while dad gets to do whatever he wants and that i'm encouraging it and taking advantage of hubs. So he says I either go back and attempt to gain another order for support or he will leave until I do. The last time I attempted support orders it dragged on for nearly 2 years and never came to anything. Every single time we went before magistrate ex would give some song n dance and boom, orders would be temporarily halted until the blah blah blah could be resolved. This nonsense dragged on so long that ex eventually left the state and that was the end of it per the CSE's stating he could not be found. Case was inevitably closed. This is precisely the reason I haven't attempted things again because I know here in FL that its useless. But hubs is very angry and rightfully so which brings me to my question. If I were to go back and file again would it be better to go through a private attorney or would it be just as slow as going through the state? I don't want another situation where he gets to use the court to his advantage but i'm now backed into a corner. If I were to go through the state again would they have records of previous dealings or is it like starting all over again? I do know that ex now has an official job (quit job where he was a 1099) and now lives locally. Would this help move things along?