This question pertains to Ohio law. My ex girlfriend and I were together for 6 years, unmarried, and had a child together. Last October we broke up our unofficial engagement and in doing so we discussed how child support would work for the next couple of years. We came to an agreement that in lieu of paying monthly that she would get to have the engagement ring I purchased for her (retail value of $7,000) in exchange for my not having to pay child support until January of 2017 (2 years without payment). Since then she has threatened on multiple times to give the ring back and go file for child support whenever she gets upset about something, so we have recently agreed to sign something and finalize the deal so that there will be no more discussion of it.
My question is this: if I write up a document simply stating that in exchange for possession of the engagement ring (which, by the way, was never given to her prior to our break up as it was an informal engagement) she agrees not to file for child support until January of 2017 and that any child support owed prior to that date will be waived and we have it notarized, will this document hold up in court in Ohio? Is there anything else that I should do in order to make sure that I am covered in any future scenarios that I don't end up losing both the ring (she's now trying to sell it) and having to pay child support for January 2015 to January 2017? I'm really trying not to involve lawyers in this because the fees are quite honestly more than I can afford right now (she really messed me up financially) and even the $250 I was quoted to have a document drawn up by a lawyer is more than I can afford right now.
Any input on this situation is appreciated. Let me also add that I'm far from trying to skip out on child support, since I'm pretty much waiting for someone to bash me for trying to get out of paying, I just simply don't have it right now as I'm looking for a job in my field (recently graduated college) and until then I'm broke and have a load of student loan debt to pay back. I also watch my daughter every Tuesday and Thursday and every other Saturday/Sunday so it's not like I'm not trying to play as significant of a role in my daughter's life as I can. I also pay for her health insurance which is about $180 a month just for her.
My question is this: if I write up a document simply stating that in exchange for possession of the engagement ring (which, by the way, was never given to her prior to our break up as it was an informal engagement) she agrees not to file for child support until January of 2017 and that any child support owed prior to that date will be waived and we have it notarized, will this document hold up in court in Ohio? Is there anything else that I should do in order to make sure that I am covered in any future scenarios that I don't end up losing both the ring (she's now trying to sell it) and having to pay child support for January 2015 to January 2017? I'm really trying not to involve lawyers in this because the fees are quite honestly more than I can afford right now (she really messed me up financially) and even the $250 I was quoted to have a document drawn up by a lawyer is more than I can afford right now.
Any input on this situation is appreciated. Let me also add that I'm far from trying to skip out on child support, since I'm pretty much waiting for someone to bash me for trying to get out of paying, I just simply don't have it right now as I'm looking for a job in my field (recently graduated college) and until then I'm broke and have a load of student loan debt to pay back. I also watch my daughter every Tuesday and Thursday and every other Saturday/Sunday so it's not like I'm not trying to play as significant of a role in my daughter's life as I can. I also pay for her health insurance which is about $180 a month just for her.