What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
My children's father refused to help me much so I had to apply for food stamps. Applying for food stamps makes you start the child support enforcement (CSE). He has helped me somewhat in the past with the kids but with my salary from 2 jobs I still can't make ends meet. He did give me about $300 a month ago but then asked for $60 back a couple days after . All I asked from him was to keep the kids 3 days a week so that daycare costs can be shifted to other bills and he refused. Why? Because I decided to send my son to daycare for one day. I take home $710 every two weeks from my full-time job and avg $86 from part-time job a week and he gets $1050 working only 1 job. Daycare costs about $800 a month and one of the kids are 5 months old so you know the expenses involved in that. He threatened to get fired from his job unless I take it off. Needless to say, after only one week of being told about CSE, he got fired! And somehow this is all my fault?! Now he's persistant in wanting me to cancel the proceedings (its only been almost 2 weeks since I started cooperating with CSE).
My oldest is 9 years old and I never had to take him for child support. I've always been able to swing it on my own with no outside help other than the occational gift to my kids from my parents. Never did I think the day would come I would have to apply for state assistance. Even worse I never thought I'd have to go through child support. I guess I put myself in this space because I used to let him get away with not being around to help take care of our kids. I never asked him for a dime in the past. Oh well.
My question is: Is there a way to kinda mediate with CSE without going to court. 2nd question is: does anyone know if mediation affect food stamps?