Child Support for G-kids

[NashvilleRider]

What is the name of your state? Great state of North Carolina


Hello to everyone, especially those who have answered my questions in the past!!

I have a son who had two children with his first wife. They are seven and five. At this time the mother has full custody. My son pays child support monthly just like he is obligated to.

My question is how the money is being handled. Both are enrolled in elementary school, and according to them they sleep at their mothers parents during the week since the g-mother takes them to school. They don't have a bedroom to sleep in. Their mother also had a child with another man and she lives with the g-parents full time. So my g-kids have to sleep on a couch and recliner.

My son's ex gets the support checks, but actually the g-kids are living full time with her parents. Her oldest child lives full time with her parents, but she collects the child support.


Also the ex adopted a baby shortly before the divorce was final. We feel that a lot of the money is being used for the care of the infant and the new lifestyle of the ex.

What is anything can be done??

I await your answer!

Dan

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Great state of North Carolina


Hello to everyone, especially those who have answered my questions in the past!!

I have a son who had two children with his first wife. They are seven and five. At this time the mother has full custody. My son pays child support monthly just like he is obligated to.

My question is how the money is being handled. Both are enrolled in elementary school, and according to them they sleep at their mothers parents during the week since the g-mother takes them to school. They don't have a bedroom to sleep in. Their mother also had a child with another man and she lives with the g-parents full time. So my g-kids have to sleep on a couch and recliner.

My son's ex gets the support checks, but actually the g-kids are living full time with her parents. Her oldest child lives full time with her parents, but she collects the child support.


Also the ex adopted a baby shortly before the divorce was final. We feel that a lot of the money is being used for the care of the infant and the new lifestyle of the ex.

What is anything can be done??

I await your answer!

Dan

If the kids are being provided for...have a roof over their heads and the basic necessities then your son has no basis to challenge how child support is spent.

However....if he has hard, cold evidence that the children are living with the grandparents rather than the mother, (long term..not just for a short time) he might have a basis to challenge custody.

 

[Ithildriel]

If the kids are being provided for...have a roof over their heads and the basic necessities then your son has no basis to challenge how child support is spent.

However....if he has hard, cold evidence that the children are living with the grandparents rather than the mother, (long term..not just for a short time) he might have a basis to challenge custody.

Does it really matter if they are living with the grandparents if mom is living their too?

"Their mother also had a child with another man and she lives with the g-parents full time. "

Edited to add: Maybe I'm confused who the she is in that sentence, mom or the other child.

 

[NashvilleRider]

If the kids are being provided for...have a roof over their heads and the basic necessities then your son has no basis to challenge how child support is spent.

However....if he has hard, cold evidence that the children are living with the grandparents rather than the mother, (long term..not just for a short time) he might have a basis to challenge custody.

Thanks for your answer....since everyone works for a living the only hard, cold evidence is what the kids have told us. They don't talk about it much unless you draw them out, but you can tell by the way they talk and their body language that they are telling the truth.

Anyone else??

Thanks!!

 

[Ohiogal]

Thanks for your answer....since everyone works for a living the only hard, cold evidence is what the kids have told us. They don't talk about it much unless you draw them out, but you can tell by the way they talk and their body language that they are telling the truth.

Anyone else??

Thanks!!

And the problem with it is you are DRAWING IT OUT OF THEM! Quit that. It is not your business what is going on and a court will not be happy with seeing that you as the grandparents are interrogating the kids.

 

[LdiJ]

Does it really matter if they are living with the grandparents if mom is living their too?

"Their mother also had a child with another man and she lives with the g-parents full time. "

Edited to add: Maybe I'm confused who the she is in that sentence, mom or the other child.

I took that to mean the other child...not the mom,

 

[LdiJ]

And the problem with it is you are DRAWING IT OUT OF THEM! Quit that. It is not your business what is going on and a court will not be happy with seeing that you as the grandparents are interrogating the kids.

No kidding!