LovemysonJ
Junior Member
Hello, recently I made the mistake of telling my 17 year old to leave my home because he was verbally abusive to me. I have an extensive history of repeated verbal, physical, sexually abuse and rape as a child as well as a history of verbal abuse by my son's father. So when my son became verbally abusive, I overreacted and told him to leave. I also sent him a message telling him to come pick up his belongings. Once I came to my senses I attended an appointment with my son and his psychologist. This did not go well because the focus was made on my behavior and not my son's. I have since left several messages for my son to come home. I also tried to bribe him with a cell phone. My latest message threatened to file a PINS petition. He is still not home and it is coming up on 3 weeks. My son's father has continued to pay me child support and has not petitioned the court for a modification. However, the girlfriend of my son's father has gone online publicly accusing me of committing a crime and stealing from my son because I "kicked him out" and I am still collecting child support. I have several police reports that document my son running away from home when I attempted to discipline him. Also, when I've asked him to come home he wanted to know if he would be grounded and I told him he would so he is refusing to come home. He keeps running to live with my parents. I have limited his contact with them because they are the ones who abused me. As far as I know, my son has not been abused by them in anyway. Instead they spoil him rotten with expensive, lavish gifts, have no rules in their home or chores. They also undermine my authority every chance they get. For example, I tried to discipline my son by taking away his phone. My parents immediately ran out and bought him a new one. Additionally, my parents and my son's father have joined together against me and have spent years talking bad about me to my son and ultimately turning him against me. Here are my questions; 1. At this point, can I be arrested for initially telling my son to leave and to come get his belongings? 2. Am I committing a crime by continuing to collect support? 3. Should I file a PINS petition to get my son home? 4. If my son does come home but leaves again to move in with my parents when he turns 18 in September am I still entitled to child support if my son goes to college? 5. Does my son even have a legal right to move in with my parents when he turns 18? 6. Do I have any other possible remedies available? Thank you for your time and attention to my dilemma!!
