bluedaffodils
Junior Member
Colorado - Adams County
I posted this question yesterday, but I think I might have done something wrong, I don't see it anywhere.
We had a very ugly divorce. Negotiated settlement: I would relocate overseas with the kids. I would waive spousal, and give up my car (he already had a car). He would pay a deviated amount of child support, because there would be costly travel expenses incurred by him to visit the kids (he got 30 days visitation per year)
After the dust settled, I did not leave. Got a job, enrolled kids in public school (I had been homeschooling for 4+ years). I have been responsible for everything pertaining to the kids. And I mean everything.
Ex sees them sporadically, 2 nights here, maybe few hours for ice cream there. No set schedule, and never advance notice.
I have filed for a modification of child support, almost a year after the original decree. My motion is based on the fact that there is no reason for the deviation as allowed by the court, since there never were any travel expenses. I also asked for the order to be retroactive to the date of the deviation.
The support is currently 1000. The worksheet I used, with my current financials and his last financials at the time of separation, brings the new amount to almost 2000.
Questions:
1: What are the odds the court will grant my motion, and order retroactive support? I understand that private negotiations are not admissible in court, but child support is always modifiable, if the difference is more than 10%, correct?
2: What are the chances he would win if he filed for joint decision making or joint custody? I am very scared of the joint decision making, as the marriage was abusive, and it would be a means for him to continue to exert control from a distance.
As a side note, to give you an idea of why I am so afraid this will turn ugly again: As soon as he received the documents from me, he had our oldest, who was there at the time, mark an entire calendar, all the way back to January of last year, to show that they are there every weekend, and more. Oldest (12 years old) told me this in confidence, because he felt that it was "weird" that dad could remember all the dates for 12 months.
I posted this question yesterday, but I think I might have done something wrong, I don't see it anywhere.
We had a very ugly divorce. Negotiated settlement: I would relocate overseas with the kids. I would waive spousal, and give up my car (he already had a car). He would pay a deviated amount of child support, because there would be costly travel expenses incurred by him to visit the kids (he got 30 days visitation per year)
After the dust settled, I did not leave. Got a job, enrolled kids in public school (I had been homeschooling for 4+ years). I have been responsible for everything pertaining to the kids. And I mean everything.
Ex sees them sporadically, 2 nights here, maybe few hours for ice cream there. No set schedule, and never advance notice.
I have filed for a modification of child support, almost a year after the original decree. My motion is based on the fact that there is no reason for the deviation as allowed by the court, since there never were any travel expenses. I also asked for the order to be retroactive to the date of the deviation.
The support is currently 1000. The worksheet I used, with my current financials and his last financials at the time of separation, brings the new amount to almost 2000.
Questions:
1: What are the odds the court will grant my motion, and order retroactive support? I understand that private negotiations are not admissible in court, but child support is always modifiable, if the difference is more than 10%, correct?
2: What are the chances he would win if he filed for joint decision making or joint custody? I am very scared of the joint decision making, as the marriage was abusive, and it would be a means for him to continue to exert control from a distance.
As a side note, to give you an idea of why I am so afraid this will turn ugly again: As soon as he received the documents from me, he had our oldest, who was there at the time, mark an entire calendar, all the way back to January of last year, to show that they are there every weekend, and more. Oldest (12 years old) told me this in confidence, because he felt that it was "weird" that dad could remember all the dates for 12 months.