What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? KY
I have a few questions concerning family law and such, I wasn't really sure which place this went so I apologize if there was a more specific place to post this issue.
First, let give me you a run-down of the situation. Two adults married, but living separately for over 3 years. Both have girlfriends now (yes, the mother has a girlfriend now) and custody of the son has not been established. The son lives with the father, however, the mother has been claiming him on foodstamps and such for those 3 years. The father is wanting to get custody established and file for Child Support since the mother does not assist with much with taking care of the boy. Any clothes he gets from her comes from her ex-girlfriends. The father has been fighting with the mother over this issue and she refuses to relinquish the boy from her food stamp case or anything else because she also receives assistance with rent, electricity and medical because the boy is on her case.
My question is how should the father proceed with this issue? Should he file for Child Support or contact a legal person to get divorced and establish custody? If custody is established, it has been agreed that they would do joint custody, however, the mother will fight to be main guardian even though the boy does not live with her. He has contacted the local food stamp office as well to report the mother, however, he has been told that without custody being established and without proof, it is first come first serve. He has the paperwork to file for Child Support, however, he is not certain it will amount to anything if they are still married. Again, they have not lived together for 3 years and the mother has had 3 different girlfriends within that time frame ( if that matters at all). The mother has also had multiple addresses, whereas the father has had one stable address. The only issue is, neither of them currently have a job. The mother had a job through the food stamp office, however, she has been reported on multiple times for her son not living with her, unfortunately, she is able to straighten things out each time for her benefit.
Any advice you can give on this issue would be greatly appreciated.
I have a few questions concerning family law and such, I wasn't really sure which place this went so I apologize if there was a more specific place to post this issue.
First, let give me you a run-down of the situation. Two adults married, but living separately for over 3 years. Both have girlfriends now (yes, the mother has a girlfriend now) and custody of the son has not been established. The son lives with the father, however, the mother has been claiming him on foodstamps and such for those 3 years. The father is wanting to get custody established and file for Child Support since the mother does not assist with much with taking care of the boy. Any clothes he gets from her comes from her ex-girlfriends. The father has been fighting with the mother over this issue and she refuses to relinquish the boy from her food stamp case or anything else because she also receives assistance with rent, electricity and medical because the boy is on her case.
My question is how should the father proceed with this issue? Should he file for Child Support or contact a legal person to get divorced and establish custody? If custody is established, it has been agreed that they would do joint custody, however, the mother will fight to be main guardian even though the boy does not live with her. He has contacted the local food stamp office as well to report the mother, however, he has been told that without custody being established and without proof, it is first come first serve. He has the paperwork to file for Child Support, however, he is not certain it will amount to anything if they are still married. Again, they have not lived together for 3 years and the mother has had 3 different girlfriends within that time frame ( if that matters at all). The mother has also had multiple addresses, whereas the father has had one stable address. The only issue is, neither of them currently have a job. The mother had a job through the food stamp office, however, she has been reported on multiple times for her son not living with her, unfortunately, she is able to straighten things out each time for her benefit.
Any advice you can give on this issue would be greatly appreciated.