I completely see where you are coming from and I have a similar situation. It sucks that she moved away after you guys moved closer to her in the first place. It sounds like something she is doing to be rotten and unfair to the first child and their father.
In some states I know that when a man has to support more than one of his children, his CS obligations for the first child do go down. I have a friend in NC and that's exactly what happened. His income is still the same, and while he has a new baby that he has to support, he doesn't have more money. Just like any family, when a new member enters the family, the income doesn't go up, the family just has to split the income between more children.
However, still being with him might not be the same deal. Maybe take him to court for child support on the child you share. The court will have to ration his income between both of his children, which would be lower for his first child.
Please stop responding to people, you have no clue what you are talking about. You are wrong. It wouldn't necessarily mean that it would lower the support that he is paying for the first child.
Then get back with him. Some courts require to see how you spend the money on the child, but if your rent is paid with the money, most courts say that's an appropriate way to spend the money. And of course you will also spend money on the baby for diapers and all, so you wouldn't be a terrible person. You would just be ensuring that his income be shared between both of his children equally.
Wrong again. The courts do not require that you show how child support is spent.
Just like a family that has never been split up...that first child is spoiled, but the more children that enter that family, the less spoiled that first child becomes.
Wow, I'd hate to be in your family if that's how you treat kids.
I love my step daughter as well, and I am having problems building my own family, because of her mom, and her chuld support as well. I am unable to work due to an injury, and she refuses to get her GED or get out of that fast food restaurant, because she admittedly wants to receive money instead of working hard for herself.
As another person stated, you said you had a high paying job and that your boyfriend was the one not working???
A lot of ex's try to make things harder when they are no longer in the relationship, and especially when someone new is in the picture.
But look into it to be sure, if you think it might work, try it.
I wouldn't be too shy to try to get child support for my child even if I was planning to stay with the father. The court doesn't need to know that.