Sooner5900
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma
Ok, so heres the deal. My daughter is 12 years old (Im her step-father, but Ive raised her since she was 1) and her real father has never had much to do with her. He was ordered to pay Child support in 2004 which he paid for about a year. Since then, the guy hasnt had a job and has leaned on his parents ever since to support his wife and other son. He still takes his visitation, but he doesnt do anything with her. She just likes going over there to see her little brother and her grandmother. Two weeks ago he got pulled over and thrown in jail for $17K in back child support. Its going to take $9600 to get him out, which I was sure that his family didnt have.
He called me wife today from jail and wanted to make a deal with her. He already has 2 felony charges against him and said that if he didnt get the $9600 by Dec. 29th, and hes going to get two more felony charges and 3 years in jail. So here was his plan: His father has $10,000 in retirement and is willing to pay the $9600 to get him out. His father will be broke and have to go back to work. He think the $9600 goes to my wife, and wants her to keep $1000 and give the rest back to his parents. Then, hes going to get a job with his brother in law (I know he can get the job, but he hasnt worked in 6 years. The question is whether hes going to actually work) and start to pay his child support again. Also, after we give his parents back $8600 of the $9600; he wants to come up with a payment plan, get it notarized, and start to pay back the rest of the $8600 that goes back to his parents. All that while he pays his current child support.
I dont like the idea, but it doesnt really matter what I think. My wife is concerned that maybe something can come back on her? Shes afraid that she could get in trouble for giving his parents back the $9600 that bails him out. ..Since, in reality, its back child support. Even then, he owes 7K more in back child support. Shes an honest person that doesnt like to lie or do anything that could get her in trouble. So, Im just trying to get a little feedback on the situation and see if she could get in trouble for doing something like this.
In my opinion, the guy will get a job and in two years be back in the same hole that hes currently in. Hes the laziest person Ive met in my entire life. I was hoping that he would sign over his rights and I could adopt her; shes called me Dad since she was 2 and Ive raised her all her life. ...Any input would be appreciated!! Thanks!!
Ok, so heres the deal. My daughter is 12 years old (Im her step-father, but Ive raised her since she was 1) and her real father has never had much to do with her. He was ordered to pay Child support in 2004 which he paid for about a year. Since then, the guy hasnt had a job and has leaned on his parents ever since to support his wife and other son. He still takes his visitation, but he doesnt do anything with her. She just likes going over there to see her little brother and her grandmother. Two weeks ago he got pulled over and thrown in jail for $17K in back child support. Its going to take $9600 to get him out, which I was sure that his family didnt have.
He called me wife today from jail and wanted to make a deal with her. He already has 2 felony charges against him and said that if he didnt get the $9600 by Dec. 29th, and hes going to get two more felony charges and 3 years in jail. So here was his plan: His father has $10,000 in retirement and is willing to pay the $9600 to get him out. His father will be broke and have to go back to work. He think the $9600 goes to my wife, and wants her to keep $1000 and give the rest back to his parents. Then, hes going to get a job with his brother in law (I know he can get the job, but he hasnt worked in 6 years. The question is whether hes going to actually work) and start to pay his child support again. Also, after we give his parents back $8600 of the $9600; he wants to come up with a payment plan, get it notarized, and start to pay back the rest of the $8600 that goes back to his parents. All that while he pays his current child support.
I dont like the idea, but it doesnt really matter what I think. My wife is concerned that maybe something can come back on her? Shes afraid that she could get in trouble for giving his parents back the $9600 that bails him out. ..Since, in reality, its back child support. Even then, he owes 7K more in back child support. Shes an honest person that doesnt like to lie or do anything that could get her in trouble. So, Im just trying to get a little feedback on the situation and see if she could get in trouble for doing something like this.
In my opinion, the guy will get a job and in two years be back in the same hole that hes currently in. Hes the laziest person Ive met in my entire life. I was hoping that he would sign over his rights and I could adopt her; shes called me Dad since she was 2 and Ive raised her all her life. ...Any input would be appreciated!! Thanks!!