proudwifey
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What is the name of your state? NY
I'LL KEEP THIS AS SHORT AS I CAN. 5 1/2 YEARS AGO, I HAD A CHILD WITH AN EX BOYFRIEND. WE'VE GONE TO COURT OVER AND OVER AGAIN DUE TO CHILD SUPPORT (OR LACK OF). HE IS REQUIRED TO PAY A WHOLE $20/WEEK IN SUPPORT, $30/WEEK FOR CHILDCARE, AND MOST RECENTLY $70/MONTH FOR HEALTH INSURANCE.
SOMEHOW, HE'S MANAGED TO GET HIMSELF OVER $3,000 IN ARREARS. WE HAVE ALREADY GONE TO COURT 3 TIMES IN THE PAST 2 YEARS, ALL OF WHICH WAS FOR VIOLATION OF A COURT ORDER.
MY MAIN ISSUE IS THAT HE CAN'T HOLD A JOB. EVERYTIME WE GO TO COURT, HE CONVENIENTLY LOSES HIS JOB THE WEEK BEFORE THE COURT DATE. AND EVEN WHEN COURT IS NOT AN ISSUE, HE CAN NOT HOLD A JOB LONGER THAN 2 MONTHS. WE HAVE THE CHILD SUPPORT ORDERED TO BE COLLECTED THROUGH THE CHILD SUPPORT COLLECTION UNIT, AND THEY HAVE TRIED TO DO INCOME EXECUTIONS. BUT THAT TAKES UP TO 45 DAYS! WE WOULD BE LUCKY TO RECIEVE 1 PAYMENT BEFORE HE LOSES HIS JOB. HE CLAIMS THAT LOSING HIS JOB IS DUE TO BACK PAIN, AND NOW NOBODY WANTS TO HIRE HIM BECAUSE HE IS A "COMP THREAT".
I TOLD HIM MANY TIMES TO LOOK INTO A DIFFERENT FEILD OF WORK (HE "WORKS" IN WAREHOUSES AND JOBS WITH HEAVY LIFTING). I TOLD HIM TO GO TO MCDONALDS OR BURGER KING, JUST SO THAT HE COULD GET A REGULAR PAYCHECK AND NOT HAVE TO DO HEAVY LIFTING, BUT HE SAYS THAT HE "DOESN'T *WANT* TO WORK THERE".
AS IT STANDS, MY EX IS A FEW THOUSAND BEHIND IN ARREARS, AND MY HUSBAND IS TAKING CARE OF MY CHILD FOR HIM (WITH ME, OF COURSE).
CAN THE COURTS 'FORCE' HIM TO WORK? HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO PETITION FOR A VIOLATION BEFORE THEY FINALLY *DO* SOMETHING?!?!? IT'S JUST SO AGGRIVATING! WE HAVE ANOTHER COURT DATE ON 1/9. I'D JUST LIKE A HEADS UP ON WHAT MAY OR MAY NOT HAPPEN. THANKS SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR INPUT!
I'LL KEEP THIS AS SHORT AS I CAN. 5 1/2 YEARS AGO, I HAD A CHILD WITH AN EX BOYFRIEND. WE'VE GONE TO COURT OVER AND OVER AGAIN DUE TO CHILD SUPPORT (OR LACK OF). HE IS REQUIRED TO PAY A WHOLE $20/WEEK IN SUPPORT, $30/WEEK FOR CHILDCARE, AND MOST RECENTLY $70/MONTH FOR HEALTH INSURANCE.
SOMEHOW, HE'S MANAGED TO GET HIMSELF OVER $3,000 IN ARREARS. WE HAVE ALREADY GONE TO COURT 3 TIMES IN THE PAST 2 YEARS, ALL OF WHICH WAS FOR VIOLATION OF A COURT ORDER.
MY MAIN ISSUE IS THAT HE CAN'T HOLD A JOB. EVERYTIME WE GO TO COURT, HE CONVENIENTLY LOSES HIS JOB THE WEEK BEFORE THE COURT DATE. AND EVEN WHEN COURT IS NOT AN ISSUE, HE CAN NOT HOLD A JOB LONGER THAN 2 MONTHS. WE HAVE THE CHILD SUPPORT ORDERED TO BE COLLECTED THROUGH THE CHILD SUPPORT COLLECTION UNIT, AND THEY HAVE TRIED TO DO INCOME EXECUTIONS. BUT THAT TAKES UP TO 45 DAYS! WE WOULD BE LUCKY TO RECIEVE 1 PAYMENT BEFORE HE LOSES HIS JOB. HE CLAIMS THAT LOSING HIS JOB IS DUE TO BACK PAIN, AND NOW NOBODY WANTS TO HIRE HIM BECAUSE HE IS A "COMP THREAT".
I TOLD HIM MANY TIMES TO LOOK INTO A DIFFERENT FEILD OF WORK (HE "WORKS" IN WAREHOUSES AND JOBS WITH HEAVY LIFTING). I TOLD HIM TO GO TO MCDONALDS OR BURGER KING, JUST SO THAT HE COULD GET A REGULAR PAYCHECK AND NOT HAVE TO DO HEAVY LIFTING, BUT HE SAYS THAT HE "DOESN'T *WANT* TO WORK THERE".
AS IT STANDS, MY EX IS A FEW THOUSAND BEHIND IN ARREARS, AND MY HUSBAND IS TAKING CARE OF MY CHILD FOR HIM (WITH ME, OF COURSE).
CAN THE COURTS 'FORCE' HIM TO WORK? HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO PETITION FOR A VIOLATION BEFORE THEY FINALLY *DO* SOMETHING?!?!? IT'S JUST SO AGGRIVATING! WE HAVE ANOTHER COURT DATE ON 1/9. I'D JUST LIKE A HEADS UP ON WHAT MAY OR MAY NOT HAPPEN. THANKS SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR INPUT!