I have no idea if you fit the above mold...I hope not, and, doubt it but you do come across as a the vindictive ex wife type...no offense.
That is your problem, you have no idea who I am, what my story is, yet, you come behind me and make snide accusatory remarks aimed at deminishing my character as a person. That, audster is a sign of vindictiveness. Also, accusing someone who chooses to stand up for themselves once someone has insinuated their motives might not be pure is not vindictiveness...it's my right as a person to let people like you know they are barking up the wrong tree and need to think before they respond. You accusing me of vindictiveness is nothing but projection of your own feelings off onto me. Camaflouging the remark with a "no offfense" comment doesn't work, it's still quite plain what you are doing....you are swiping out at me because and for no other reason than I am a CP.
Nope. i resent the fact that no matter what I paid, the child would see none of it. nothing, nada, zilch! Never has, never will. Mom is to busy popping out kids with new husband....niether of them have worked in years. As a matter of fact I double paid CS for 4 years trying to get to states sh*t together because they filed for Aid in both states at the same time!
That is your situation, not mine and not that of all the other CP mothers I've seen you react negatively to on these forums. Of course I'm not real sure how you can say your child is not seeing any of the child support you send. They have to be living somewhere, eating something and the clothes they were have to be coming from somewhere. I've seen where you make reference to how much you have paid and how much you make. You don't pay enough child support that anyone...especially a woman who has had more children with her present husband...could possibly be living high off the hog with the money you have to send every month. It wouldn't matter if neither of them ever worked again. You are still responsible for a portion of the responsibility when it comes to raising your child or children. I'm not sure why you think you should pay less just because they don't work. Whether she works or not does not negate your responsibility.
Well, good for you. But a vactation is not a need for you or the ex...although, I can see where that would get a little annoying. But let me ask you, if he offered to take the children to Europe, would you have let him?
I'm not sure why you feel you have a right to define my needs and wants. If I feel the need for a vacation then it is my right to classify a vacation as a need. My ex can define it as a need for himself if he pleases. If my ex offered to take my children anywhere their bags would be packed and they would be standing on the door steps waiting for him when he got here to pick them up. In the 6 years he has been gone he hasn't done that once. He has spent two hours in the last two years with them, placed 3 phone calls in the last 2 years to them and believe me, the three of us gave up any hope of him ever wanting them in his life along time ago. I'm sure he finds some way to justify his non-relationship with his children and I'm pretty sure that I fit into the picture in some way...he is your typical, NCP who needs someone to be pissed at and who better than me and the court system that makes him pay the piddling amount he pays.
Now, I don't know the details of your case and life, so I'll refrain from making any more blanket judgements
Too late, you make a habit of making blanket jedgements all over these forums.
You see, I finally got a hold of a judge that she had pi**ed off enough to use common sense instead of the "best interest" excuse
You won't find me pi$$ing judges off. All I have to do is show up in court with the evidence and a judge can plainly see that my ex has no idea or concern when it comes to the best interest of his children.....which, I might ad is not an excuse for anything. NOTHING is more important than the best interest of any child that walks this earth. Only problem I see is NCP like you who laugh at the concept and a few judges who can't seem to understand the concept.
it's having thier children yanked away from them except EOW and a few weeks in the summer and being relegated to the role of wallet. For the last time IT'S NOT ABOUT MONEY, IT'S ABOUT UNFAIRNESS IN CUSTODY HEARINGS!
MY children weren't yanked away from my ex. He is the one who chose to leave them, he is the one who chose not to see them EOW and during summer visitation. He is the one who put himself in the role of being nothing but a wallet. My case has nothing to do with unfairness in custody hearings. Your case might and now you have chosen to make it about the child support. You didn't prevail in a custody fight and now it rankles the hell out of you to have to send her money. Makes one wonder exactly why you wanted custody in the first place is that is the real issue. Custody isn't about not having to pay child support...it's about a desire to be with your children on a daily basis and I have a feeling that if you were you would see just how little an impact that small amount of child support has on their needs.
Ok, now that's just plain dirty....I could launch into a rant about the disease, but you really made a big assumption here.....the diabetes developed afterwards......hmmmmm. Oh, yeah, oldest daughter is diabetic as well. How many times do ya think i've paid for her supplies when Mom wouldn't....the term medical neglect comes to mind!
So, it's OK for you to not be able to afford medical supplies for your condition...the courts should have sympathy on you. On the other hand when the mother of your children has to come to you for help with your child's supplies it should be considered medical neglect? Sounds like a double standard to me.
If NCP has a chronic, incurable lifelong health issue, say Type 1 Diabetes, that has signifigant medical costs (insulin, testers, test strips, monthly doctor visits, special diets, glucogen shots, syringes...ect) should that factor into CS
You, yourself say that your diabetes has been a chronic, lifelong health issue. When someone uses the words chronic and lifelong I don't think I'm assuming anything when I come to the conclusion they have suffered with the desease all their lives. You don't have to explain this desease to me. My father has it and managed to work a full time, well paying job up until retirement age inspite of the medical problems it caused him. I have a cousin who has it and she has managed to a career and decent lifestyle inspite of kidney failure desease of the retina and other problems. Mary Tyler Moore has it and has very serious health issues because of it and she has somewho managed to make ends meet.
I don't know anything about you other than what you have posted on these forums. According to you, you have a college education yet you work a $10.00 an hour job? You dog on your ex and how she lives off the state and yet you have no problem with a man who is college educated settling for a minimal salaried job.
I hadn't worked in 14 years, had no marketable skills when my ex left. I managed to motivate myself enough to get myself in a position of being able to make a living that meant my children and I could have a decent lifestyle and I wouldn't have to sit around and resent the fact that he had walked off with our security. If you resent someone getting child support because you don't have much income then the thing to do is put your thinking cap on and come up with a way to make more money. Might help you feel better about yourself which will rid you of some of your anger and vindictiveness.
