tigger22472 said:
You have two different issues at hand however.
I also want to warn you that the more issues you bring up the more likely you are to be told what my husband was during a modification hearing and his schedule is less trouble then yours. 50/50 custody is not popular. Society believes that there should be a 'custodial parent' in every issue that gets to make the ultimate decision on issues. In 50/50 that's not possible. It's extremely important in 50/50 situations to bend over more backwards then normal to make the situation work. Other wise as in my husband's case the judge will say "If you can't agree on things someone needs to file for custody". It then becomes a war. There will be one parent 'winning' and one parent 'losing' but either way the child loses. Now, let's say the judge says that and you decide to file. It becomes much tougher then a normal custody battle. You would have a harder time of proving the other parent 'unfit'. It becomes a larger issue of finding out what hills are worth dying on. So you have to ask yourself is it worth the trouble it could cause to argue the fact of the child spending time with g'ma and dad is doing what HE has to in order to provide for the child. You are arguing NOT to give HIM extra time and put your child in preschool and day care on your days.. but then fighting to have the child when he uses someone outside the home.
And again CS is a separate issue then the visitation schedule or who cares for the child on each parent's time. More then likely unless this has been addressed in the motion already you may not be able to argue that in March.
Thank you again. I have already filed for my Pro Se custody modification, it is next week. We can't agree on anything as you said can be an issue with 50/50 and there is another major issue as well, but I don't want to get into all of that.
The fact is the center is GREAT for my son. His learning, potty training, listening, behavior, language, schaedule, EVERYTHING, has advanced so much in these 3 months.
Ex, his bro., and grandam all live at grandma's. There not the average family (to say the least) when it comes to respect, behavior, and values.
My son has a huge vocabulary in the swearing dept which has tapered between my whining about it and less time spent at their house.
Anyways, I don't want to get off the subject, I just was curious in case the custody doesn't get modified what options I had with the care. Dad should be a part of son's life, but "Best Interest" is an important battle for me.
Thanks.