do we have to pay support to aunt?

[momof8]

What is the name of your state? Washington. our runaround daughter has had a problem with partying and having unprotected sex. She went out again and didn't call for 2 days. That was the last straw, so we sent her to her grandmas until we contacted her court appointed guardian ad litem to place her in a foster home or juvinile detention as court ordered if her behaviour didn't improve. Well, grandma didn't keep her because she tried to keep her before and couldn't do it. So guardian ad litem put her in aunts home. Well, just a few days ago we found out our daughter was pregnant. She is 17 1/2 years old. She is signed up for welfare benifits and all the benefits that teen mothers to be get. We are upset that the court is not keeping the deal with the foster home or detention center but instead are putting her with an aunt that admitted to us that she couldn't control her. Now the gaurdian ad litem want said that she is going to suggest that we pay support to the aunt in the amount of $600 per month. Is it legal for an aunt to demand child support when the child is receiving welfare? Can the child be emancipated since she refuses parental control? We are very upset that reckless daughter and shady aunt can get our money. what can we do?

[seniorjudge]

Originally Posted by momof8

What is the name of your state? Washington. our runaround daughter has had a problem with partying and having unprotected sex. She went out again and didn't call for 2 days. That was the last straw, so we sent her to her grandmas until we contacted her court appointed guardian ad litem to place her in a foster home or juvinile detention as court ordered if her behaviour didn't improve. Well, grandma didn't keep her because she tried to keep her before and couldn't do it. So guardian ad litem put her in aunts home. Well, just a few days ago we found out our daughter was pregnant. She is 17 1/2 years old. She is signed up for welfare benifits and all the benefits that teen mothers to be get. We are upset that the court is not keeping the deal with the foster home or detention center but instead are putting her with an aunt that admitted to us that she couldn't control her. Now the gaurdian ad litem want said that she is going to suggest that we pay support to the aunt in the amount of $600 per month. Is it legal for an aunt to demand child support when the child is receiving welfare? Can the child be emancipated since she refuses parental control? We are very upset that reckless daughter and shady aunt can get our money. what can we do?

Yes, you should have to pay child support for your child and you should not expect the taxpayers to have to pay it.

[momof8]

our daughter is going to receive taxpayer money whether or not we pay child support. She already is and will be for years to come, i'm sure she's grateful for your pennies. anyway, Her aunt wants more money as much as she can get anyway. The thing is that her aunt had kicked her out of her house this summer because she couldn't control her behavior and now all of a sudden she wants her if she can get money for her. Like i said - she's shady. The aunt wasn't part of the courts decision before. It was either a parent or a detention center because of her need for supervision. Shouldn't they (the court) keep the agreement? If she refuses to live with us by our rules can she be emancipated? Anything but the aunt please!

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by momof8

our daughter is going to receive taxpayer money whether or not we pay child support. She already is and will be for years to come, i'm sure she's grateful for your pennies. anyway, Her aunt wants more money as much as she can get anyway. The thing is that her aunt had kicked her out of her house this summer because she couldn't control her behavior and now all of a sudden she wants her if she can get money for her. Like i said - she's shady. The aunt wasn't part of the courts decision before. It was either a parent or a detention center because of her need for supervision. Shouldn't they (the court) keep the agreement? If she refuses to live with us by our rules can she be emancipated? Anything but the aunt please!

By the time you could get anything done the child is going to be a legal adult and it won't matter anyway. File now for her to be emancipated on her 18th birthday.

[momof8]

I don't want to give her aunt any money. Our daughter doesn't want to live where she has rules. Can our daughter have that kind of control over us. She's basically telling us that if we don't like what she does, she's going to show us a thing or two. And we know she's being manipulated by her aunt. Somehow, none of this seems right, In other posts regarding incorrigible children there seems to be advice in favor of the parent. Is there anyway to fight the aunt getting custody?

[NotSoNew]

sure you can fight it, you dont have to consent to the aunt getting custody. by the time this all went to court though your daughter would already be 18.

[Gracie3787]

I had a son who put us thru hell, he went to live with friends, then finally the court placed him in detention- so I understand what you are going thru.

If you don't want the Aunt to have custody, you need to fight it. However, there is a simple fact of life that you seem to be ignoring:

You are legally, and morally responsible to financially support your daughter until she becomes an adult. If she lives with the Aunt- you will have to pay support. If she goes into detention- you will have to pay support to the state. With your daughter now getting welfare, it is possible that you'll have to pay the state, and the father of the baby will also have to pay the state.

I'm sorry, but you won't be able to get out of supporting your daughter until she becomes an adult.
Gracie

Originally Posted by momof8

I don't want to give her aunt any money.

Then maybe you shouldn't be having children you are NOT WILLING to support. I am sure if you had custody, you'd EXPECT TO BE PAID child support, huh?

So, you don't want to give the aunt money to support YOUR child...instead you'd rather have her in foster/detention home so the taxpayers pay for the brunt of it?

Get a clue, woman.

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by momof8

That was the last straw, so we sent her to her grandmas until we contacted her court appointed guardian ad litem to place her in a foster home or juvinile detention as court ordered if her behaviour didn't improve. Well, grandma didn't keep her because she tried to keep her before and couldn't do it.

My question would be: Why did you send her to Gramma's in the first place, esp if you knew that it didn't work out before?

Originally Posted by momof8

The aunt wasn't part of the courts decision before. It was either a parent or a detention center because of her need for supervision. Shouldn't they (the court) keep the agreement?

Did you not break the agreement first? YOU sent her to gramma, you should have kept her home until the GAL moved her.

Your only options at this point is to either pay the aunt support or bring your daughter home. Either way, you have to support you child until she is 18.

[GROIN PAIN]

Apparently, our writer is .

[rmet4nzkx]

Try Brazil method.

[momof8]

I'm not trying to get out of supporting my daughter. It seems that a few are getting that vibe. I just don't want to support the aunt and that's exactly where the money will go. The aunt is the rebellious one in the family, the one you don't want influencing your kids. Anyway I'm trying to not let our daughter tell us that she is going to do what ever she wants and take our money too. Do courts actually condone that sort of behavior? We sent her to grandmas in a panic because she got so incorrigable. And we were up to our necks in her garbage and her grandma has been sort of a respite place. But Grandma said she can't handle her anymore either, she's lost respect for her and won't listen to her. our daughter has a room here but she doesn't want to be here under our rules. She calls us a**holes cause we won't let her go out with her party buddies. Every since she started partying, she's become a different person, like it's not even her anymore. She wants to be on her own so badly she's practically forcing us to let her have her way. It just hurts to know we've loved her and treated her so well, bought the expensive stuff and taught her good morals. We did good and now we get treated like the bad guys. She won't talk to us. She won't look at us. It's like she's possessed or something. I don't think she wants us to see her bloodshot eyes. Anyway we gave her money to buy pretty much whatever she wants as long as it met our standards ( no marijuana leaves or cuss words etc.) so it's not like she wasn't getting support. She just wants the same treatment while living wherever she pleases (she likes to party). And it seems like she may actually pull it off. We have a court date this week re: placement with the aunt and her court appointed Gaurdian ad litem is going to request support then. Do we have a right to say absolutely not! she needs to come home or go to detention? Or can she get away with this?

[Neal1421]

Originally Posted by GROIN PAIN

Apparently, our writer is *****.

Where are you getting that?

[AmarieNorton]

Excuse me THAT was out of line. I have seen some mean posts in my time browsing this board but this really crosses the line. Does it matter what race the OP is? Does it matter what race anyone is when they come here looking for help? It's simple, if you don't want to help then don't but there is no need to cross the racial line.