blackbettybamf
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? KS
I was in a serious relationship beginning in late 2008. Things were fantastic until I caught him with drugs in February of 2009 and moved out of our apartment. A few weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. For a week or so, he kept assuring me we would "talk about it", but talking about it turned into him insisting I have an abortion which I chose not to. He contacted me and threatened me several times throughout the course of my pregnancy and went so far as to deny the baby was his. He was in jail when she was born in November of last year. He started messaging me trying to be friends in January of this year, which I chose not to accept. I had filed child support papers and they were extremely behind so it took several months before they could meet with me in March-ish of this year. For a really long time, I heard nothing. Flash forward to July of this year, he texts me and asks if I had child support papers served on him. I chose not to answer his question and asked him to leave me alone. He threatened to fight me for custody and once again, I asked him to leave me alone. About 2 weeks ago, I get a letter in the mail stating that they are unable to locate him. After speaking with my child support enforcement agent, she informed me that they sent a certified letter which he refused to pick up and that he has no other open CSE cases and is obviously avoiding service. I don't know how they have been unable to locate him as I have given his place of employment and his schedule - furthermore, I did an employee verification on him myself. How do I get him served?
Additionally, I was wondering if this text message regarding whether or not I had him served would hold up as proof of avoiding service in court and how that would affect his chances of shared custody? I don't want my daughter around him without my supervision because he has said on multiple occasions that he wants nothing to do with her and I don't trust him to treat her right.
I was in a serious relationship beginning in late 2008. Things were fantastic until I caught him with drugs in February of 2009 and moved out of our apartment. A few weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. For a week or so, he kept assuring me we would "talk about it", but talking about it turned into him insisting I have an abortion which I chose not to. He contacted me and threatened me several times throughout the course of my pregnancy and went so far as to deny the baby was his. He was in jail when she was born in November of last year. He started messaging me trying to be friends in January of this year, which I chose not to accept. I had filed child support papers and they were extremely behind so it took several months before they could meet with me in March-ish of this year. For a really long time, I heard nothing. Flash forward to July of this year, he texts me and asks if I had child support papers served on him. I chose not to answer his question and asked him to leave me alone. He threatened to fight me for custody and once again, I asked him to leave me alone. About 2 weeks ago, I get a letter in the mail stating that they are unable to locate him. After speaking with my child support enforcement agent, she informed me that they sent a certified letter which he refused to pick up and that he has no other open CSE cases and is obviously avoiding service. I don't know how they have been unable to locate him as I have given his place of employment and his schedule - furthermore, I did an employee verification on him myself. How do I get him served?
Additionally, I was wondering if this text message regarding whether or not I had him served would hold up as proof of avoiding service in court and how that would affect his chances of shared custody? I don't want my daughter around him without my supervision because he has said on multiple occasions that he wants nothing to do with her and I don't trust him to treat her right.
