laughingstar11
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
Hello, I’m posting for my brother.
My brother, Jason, was married and had 2 girls in Florida. A few years ago his wife divorced him and took his 2 girls and her other 3 kids from previous relationships with her to Vermont. When she was up there she started getting child support from Jason ($1,100) but she was only in Vermont for about 6 months and then moved to Massachusetts. Jason just started paying her the $1,100 directly into her bank account. She claims there was a reason why it was all messed up and she never changed it to Massachusetts. He trusted her and wanted his girls to be safe so he paid her the money directly. She has never worked and has 5 children so he never questioned sending it to her. He has never missed a month of sending money and often times pay her more than he is supposed to.
About 2 months ago she hit rock bottom (from alcoholism) and Jason went up there (per her request) to get her and her 4 youngest, ages 6-11. He brought them all back to Florida. She couldn’t take care of the kids anymore and had several open cases with social services. They were about to take the children to foster homes and she was being evicted from their home in Massachusetts. Now he has 4 children and his ex-wife living with him that he is fully supporting.
We just found out she has been still getting money from Vermont for Jason’s girls claiming she isn’t getting money from him. He has all his bank account records showing every time he has paid her and anytime she needed gas in the furnace or money for food or anything he always transferred it directly into her account. So basically she has been getting child support from Jason AND the state has been giving her money because they think she isn’t getting child support.
We are worried because according to Vermont they are going to think he has never paid these past 4 years and it’s going to keep accumulating unless its fixed. They take Jason’s tax money every year for no reason because she refuses to fix it. Since he has taken her and the kids in he has told her he isn’t paying her anymore. It’s going directly towards the food and bills. She has complained a few times about not having any money because he won’t pay her the child support anymore. She is not supporting the kids at all. Not to mention he has take in 2 other kids that aren’t even his because their father has never been in their life or paid a cent towards them. We know she will be no help in getting this child support issue resolved. She gets about $470 (that we know about, could be more) from Massachusetts for the 2 kids that are not Jason’s. But still has no money because she is an alcoholic. When he would send child support money to her and got $1,000 in food stamps the kids still never had any food in their fridge. When we would visit and the kids would always make comments about having no food. One day I walked into my brothers house with 4 bags of groceries and they said, “Wow you must be rich! We never got this many groceries at mommy’s!” They were amazed to see 4 plastic bags of groceries when their mom gets $1,000 in food stamps? We have our suspicions that she buying people groceries for cash.
My questions are:
Can they come after him for back child support?
Can he prove with just bank records that he has paid these past 4 years?
How can he fix this with Vermont so they stop the child support from accumulating and stop giving her money for children she is no longer supporting?
Also, does anyone know how he shall go about getting full custody of his girls and possibly become a foster parent to the other 2 children that are not his? Social services has already come to his home here in Florida and threatened to take the other 2 kids because they have no dad and at the time their mom was back in Massachusetts and no one could get a hold of her. When she disappears they are considered parentless and Jason would like to keep all 4 children together. They have been through enough.
Any help is appreciated. Thank you!
Hello, I’m posting for my brother.
My brother, Jason, was married and had 2 girls in Florida. A few years ago his wife divorced him and took his 2 girls and her other 3 kids from previous relationships with her to Vermont. When she was up there she started getting child support from Jason ($1,100) but she was only in Vermont for about 6 months and then moved to Massachusetts. Jason just started paying her the $1,100 directly into her bank account. She claims there was a reason why it was all messed up and she never changed it to Massachusetts. He trusted her and wanted his girls to be safe so he paid her the money directly. She has never worked and has 5 children so he never questioned sending it to her. He has never missed a month of sending money and often times pay her more than he is supposed to.
About 2 months ago she hit rock bottom (from alcoholism) and Jason went up there (per her request) to get her and her 4 youngest, ages 6-11. He brought them all back to Florida. She couldn’t take care of the kids anymore and had several open cases with social services. They were about to take the children to foster homes and she was being evicted from their home in Massachusetts. Now he has 4 children and his ex-wife living with him that he is fully supporting.
We just found out she has been still getting money from Vermont for Jason’s girls claiming she isn’t getting money from him. He has all his bank account records showing every time he has paid her and anytime she needed gas in the furnace or money for food or anything he always transferred it directly into her account. So basically she has been getting child support from Jason AND the state has been giving her money because they think she isn’t getting child support.
We are worried because according to Vermont they are going to think he has never paid these past 4 years and it’s going to keep accumulating unless its fixed. They take Jason’s tax money every year for no reason because she refuses to fix it. Since he has taken her and the kids in he has told her he isn’t paying her anymore. It’s going directly towards the food and bills. She has complained a few times about not having any money because he won’t pay her the child support anymore. She is not supporting the kids at all. Not to mention he has take in 2 other kids that aren’t even his because their father has never been in their life or paid a cent towards them. We know she will be no help in getting this child support issue resolved. She gets about $470 (that we know about, could be more) from Massachusetts for the 2 kids that are not Jason’s. But still has no money because she is an alcoholic. When he would send child support money to her and got $1,000 in food stamps the kids still never had any food in their fridge. When we would visit and the kids would always make comments about having no food. One day I walked into my brothers house with 4 bags of groceries and they said, “Wow you must be rich! We never got this many groceries at mommy’s!” They were amazed to see 4 plastic bags of groceries when their mom gets $1,000 in food stamps? We have our suspicions that she buying people groceries for cash.
My questions are:
Can they come after him for back child support?
Can he prove with just bank records that he has paid these past 4 years?
How can he fix this with Vermont so they stop the child support from accumulating and stop giving her money for children she is no longer supporting?
Also, does anyone know how he shall go about getting full custody of his girls and possibly become a foster parent to the other 2 children that are not his? Social services has already come to his home here in Florida and threatened to take the other 2 kids because they have no dad and at the time their mom was back in Massachusetts and no one could get a hold of her. When she disappears they are considered parentless and Jason would like to keep all 4 children together. They have been through enough.
Any help is appreciated. Thank you!