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I am also a second wife , and she is right. First wives do have it alot easier than second wives.
I am a two time second wife. Of course after the first marriage the odds of ever being a first wife again are low. Single men who have never been married tend not to get involved with a divorced woman with kids. (baggage as they call it) eventually most first wives become second wives at some point. Then they find out how truly difficult it is.
The fun of being compared to her . Maybe your just not as good as she was, or when your angry you sound just like her. Men tend to take out thier frustrations from thier first marraige out on the second wife. " I did all the right things for her and she left me so I'll be a jerk to you!"
Then when your finally sick and tired of all the hassel of trying to make things work, you find out when you do divorce the most you will get to support your five kids is fifty dollars a month!
Im venting. My first child is from the first wife who left him at the age of 6 months. I have raised him for fifteen years without one penny of support from iether parent. Legally I have no real rights , but I have my son. And I always said thats all I wanted and Im happy with what Ive got.
Of course I would like to have said I was a first wife. For the fantasy of it. But Im sure the reality is not all its cracked up to be.
To answer your question the second wife will not effect you and your kids, even when he dies your kids come first. But hopefully seeing they are half brother or sisters they wont loose contact with thier extended family.