kimberlywrites
Senior Member
What is the name of your state? Texas
I am trying to divorce as amicably as possible. All our assets are divvied up, no problem. It's the child support thing chewing me up inside. My STBX and I have been separated for a year. We have been doing a 50-50 physical custody split with our two kiddos. It's working well for all involved as we live close enough to each other, and can suck it up enough to host birthday parties and go to school events.
STBX makes $25,000 more a year than me. But he feels he shouldn't have to pay any child support and that we split the kids expenses 50-50, right down to cafeteria lunch accounts and haircuts and after-school care costs.
I make enough to support me and the kids and our expenses during their weeks with me, but nothing is left over. STBX is crazy about hanging on to his money and worries I will live like a queen off his child support payments. (FYI, I initiated the divorce.) I know him, and he will be more willing to pay for things like vehicles and college when the time comes - but not if he's "forced" to by law.
My lawyer is willing to draw up the decree with my wishes agreeing to no child support, but she figures a judge will have some concerns due to income discrepancy. STBX won't listen to me or to a lawyer. Does a judge ever take what parents have agreed to and say HECK NO based on what he sees in the papers?
I am trying to divorce as amicably as possible. All our assets are divvied up, no problem. It's the child support thing chewing me up inside. My STBX and I have been separated for a year. We have been doing a 50-50 physical custody split with our two kiddos. It's working well for all involved as we live close enough to each other, and can suck it up enough to host birthday parties and go to school events.
STBX makes $25,000 more a year than me. But he feels he shouldn't have to pay any child support and that we split the kids expenses 50-50, right down to cafeteria lunch accounts and haircuts and after-school care costs.
I make enough to support me and the kids and our expenses during their weeks with me, but nothing is left over. STBX is crazy about hanging on to his money and worries I will live like a queen off his child support payments. (FYI, I initiated the divorce.) I know him, and he will be more willing to pay for things like vehicles and college when the time comes - but not if he's "forced" to by law.
My lawyer is willing to draw up the decree with my wishes agreeing to no child support, but she figures a judge will have some concerns due to income discrepancy. STBX won't listen to me or to a lawyer. Does a judge ever take what parents have agreed to and say HECK NO based on what he sees in the papers?