What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Nebraska
I am the father and non custodial parent of a son whom has recently graduated, and is currently engaged in training for the Army National Guard. My son left his mother's home in late May of 2011 and will return two weeks prior to his 19th birthday.
His mother and I have always had a good relationship and made sure we worked together for his good. Her inclusion of me even for his everyday upbringing and rearing has been excellent in the past.
However, some events have come to light that me son was reluctant to share with me before, because he didn't want to worry me.
The mother's husband told my son that he couldn't live in that home because of their relationship. My son's furniture was sold, and his clothing and personal belongings are with me, via my son's girlfriend. The family (brother, sister in law and children) are now occupying my son's room. My son has recieved nothing that I would consider support from his mother while he has been gone. One care package with pictures and doo-dads. He has not been forwarded, or given by savings account any of the support money I have been sending. The support money has simply vanished without any benefit to my son. There is also money missing from his account, that only his mother has access to besides him.
I am very concerned that the money has been pilfered, and the support used for running the household while my son is out.
I have asked the mom if she is using the money for her living, or if the money was being used for my son, and she admitted that the support money is being used to pay the household bills. She told me that the support money I have been sending is hers, and could be used as she pleased, and was uncharacteristically very nasty towards me.
If, in fact, the support is not being used for my son, or being set aside for him, what action can I take? I never wanted to place her in a hardship in any way, but now,I feel I have no recourse but to get an attorney and make her accountable for all of this.
What can I do, and what is the probability of having any success for my son's best interests?
Thank you all for your advice.
I am the father and non custodial parent of a son whom has recently graduated, and is currently engaged in training for the Army National Guard. My son left his mother's home in late May of 2011 and will return two weeks prior to his 19th birthday.
His mother and I have always had a good relationship and made sure we worked together for his good. Her inclusion of me even for his everyday upbringing and rearing has been excellent in the past.
However, some events have come to light that me son was reluctant to share with me before, because he didn't want to worry me.
The mother's husband told my son that he couldn't live in that home because of their relationship. My son's furniture was sold, and his clothing and personal belongings are with me, via my son's girlfriend. The family (brother, sister in law and children) are now occupying my son's room. My son has recieved nothing that I would consider support from his mother while he has been gone. One care package with pictures and doo-dads. He has not been forwarded, or given by savings account any of the support money I have been sending. The support money has simply vanished without any benefit to my son. There is also money missing from his account, that only his mother has access to besides him.
I am very concerned that the money has been pilfered, and the support used for running the household while my son is out.
I have asked the mom if she is using the money for her living, or if the money was being used for my son, and she admitted that the support money is being used to pay the household bills. She told me that the support money I have been sending is hers, and could be used as she pleased, and was uncharacteristically very nasty towards me.
If, in fact, the support is not being used for my son, or being set aside for him, what action can I take? I never wanted to place her in a hardship in any way, but now,I feel I have no recourse but to get an attorney and make her accountable for all of this.
What can I do, and what is the probability of having any success for my son's best interests?
Thank you all for your advice.