I don't see where she was whine about it. Granted, she may have not liked the answer but she seemed to just want to understand more of why he should be allowed when it's her custody time. It seems like a highly emotionally charged situation for her and she probably couldn't step back and see that some where just pointing out their knowledge of law.
You perceived it one way, someone else perceived it differently.
Family law isn't my profession so I don't know who's right but I did ask someone I know who owns several daycare business and she said that this situation actually happens alot.
From the daycare pov time sheets are not legal documents.Time sheets are infomational sheets and are only kept for 30days until they are shredded. She said they don't give copies for the fact it is violating the privacy issues of the other parents and children at the daycare.
That is not always the case.
When bringing your child in to the program PLEASE make sure you WALK with your child into the
building and let the staff know that your child has arrived. DO NOT just drop off your child at the
curb or outside the door. If you continue to do this your childcare services will be terminated.
When picking up your child you MUST come in and sign your child out. Parents need to sign the child
out and not the child themselves. This is considered a legal document and can be used in some cases
to show a child was in attendance.
Identification will be asked for until the staff get to know the parents.
(From Augusta, ME Childcare Bureau Handbook
http://www.ci.augusta.me.us/docs/childcare/parent_handbook_2008_2009.pdf)
Additionally, many day care centers (far too many to list) advise parents to keep a copy of the attendance/time-sheet for their own records. One of the more obvious reasons?
Sometimes a parent will need to prove attendance in order to be reimbursed for, or prove eligibility for, financial aid for day care costs.
There is no privacy issue here. And unless they are orders saying otherwise, that parent is absolutely entitled to the information - if the parent asks and comes up against a wall, the day-care provider is going to need a pretty solid reason for refusing.
But as none of us know everything, ask your friend if there is there an unusual local statute covering this. Give her a call and ask her what rule or law she's following.