[QUOTE=TLesondak]Hello, I am in CA and ina situation I need help with. My ex after 6years of a child support agreement between us. has now gone after me for child support through court. I make $12'hr and they are taking $600 a month from my checks..for two kids. From what I have found that is about the going rate. That may or may not be the "Going Rate". You state it is basically an agreement, and not court ordered.
Although she is married and so am I now. The kids do not even live with her, the kids live with her mother and have for the last 3 years or so. She does not pay her mother child support. I know I can take her to court and she would have to pay her mother, No you cant.
but thoise two are an evil combination, she would move the kids in with my ex just to see me have to pay. And you should pay.
My problem is supportintg my current family. My wife can not wirk cause there is no one to watch our son, child care would be pointless as she would be working just to pay that. I can not go see my kids cause there is way to much drama,. Grow up. They are your kids, deal with the drama.
I have consulted a counselor and a couple other people, and for my 18 month olds sake as well as the sake of my two other kids (if I have to pay this, I will be putting me , wife and 18 month on the street as there is no way I can even pay rent , let alone our other bills, making it unsafe for my 18 year old, and drfinitley no good for my other two) Get your support court ordered, they will go by guideline support, taking into your income and your new child.
anyway, for the sake of my others and much to my hatred towards her their mom and grandmother for doing this, I have come to the conclusion that I have no choice but to relinquish my rights as their father. I hate the htough of having to do this, but I can not afford to put my 18month old on the street. Your 18 month old is no more special than the others that you produced.
Here is my question, and please do not pass judgment on me for having to do this, I love my kids and am soely doing this all for all of their best interests....If I relinquish my rights to them, would the child support order be stopped?? Nope.
Mind you I am the kind of father that would still send them money every month, just not an amount that would causer me not even be able to have a place to live for my wife and child now. Again, you have other children.
It is our unanimous opinion that you are damn right and it should be obvious to any moron that your (ex) (SOís ex) (boss) (landlord) (local police) should be immediately (jailed) (fired) (reprimanded) (arrested) (demoted) (shot) (evicted).
In fact, you are so astonishingly correct in this matter, it will not surprise us one bit if you are offered a generous settlement, because, by golly, thatís just how it should be.