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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
There is a long history of parental alienation on the part of my ex-wife. She has been fined twice by the court for interferring with visitation and ignoring the terms of the agreement. For a period of 12 months the court issued me an order of protection against her becuase she had me falsely arrested while I was coaching my son's basketball game. I spent the night in jail. As you can imagine there are many other events that have occurred over the years. My children had visited me regularly up to about three years ago. I took them on many nice vacations but their mother constantly put them in the middle. I beleive they finally got worn down and needed to stop visiting because of the stress of being in the middle. I brought a petition to court to hold the mother in contempt for violating visitation. At that time my children were 12, 14, and 17 (the oldest was 19 and moved out at time). The court assigned a law guardian and family court psychologist. The children told them that i'm a great Dad but don't like the stepmother or stepbrother. My current wife agreed with me that i should seek visitation with the children by myself. I offered visitation and counseling on their terms. I gave them carte blanche. However they wanted it to occur i said i would comply. I agreed to visits and vacation only with me away from the house. They said they weren't interested. The judge said becuase of thier ages, 12, 14 and 17 there is nothing she can do. They are able to terminate their relationship with me. For the past three years i have called at least once a month and on special occassions (i.e. birthday, graduation, etc.) I send cards with money on special occassions. Most times i get the answer machine. when they answer the phone they say very hurtful things or hang up. They say i'm not their father but only a sperm donor. After three years of ignoring me they have clearly terminated their relationship with me. I have been paying child support all along without any issues. In New York i read that the children have a responsibility to maintain a relationship as well as the parent. At what age can child support stop due to the children terminating the realtionship? Has anyone had thier child support terminated for this reason? I love my children very much. I have a 21 year son who is in the Navy and has resumed our relationship after he moved out of his mother's house. He calls me regularly and sent me a father's day card saying thanks for supporting him and keeping him out of trouble.
There is a long history of parental alienation on the part of my ex-wife. She has been fined twice by the court for interferring with visitation and ignoring the terms of the agreement. For a period of 12 months the court issued me an order of protection against her becuase she had me falsely arrested while I was coaching my son's basketball game. I spent the night in jail. As you can imagine there are many other events that have occurred over the years. My children had visited me regularly up to about three years ago. I took them on many nice vacations but their mother constantly put them in the middle. I beleive they finally got worn down and needed to stop visiting because of the stress of being in the middle. I brought a petition to court to hold the mother in contempt for violating visitation. At that time my children were 12, 14, and 17 (the oldest was 19 and moved out at time). The court assigned a law guardian and family court psychologist. The children told them that i'm a great Dad but don't like the stepmother or stepbrother. My current wife agreed with me that i should seek visitation with the children by myself. I offered visitation and counseling on their terms. I gave them carte blanche. However they wanted it to occur i said i would comply. I agreed to visits and vacation only with me away from the house. They said they weren't interested. The judge said becuase of thier ages, 12, 14 and 17 there is nothing she can do. They are able to terminate their relationship with me. For the past three years i have called at least once a month and on special occassions (i.e. birthday, graduation, etc.) I send cards with money on special occassions. Most times i get the answer machine. when they answer the phone they say very hurtful things or hang up. They say i'm not their father but only a sperm donor. After three years of ignoring me they have clearly terminated their relationship with me. I have been paying child support all along without any issues. In New York i read that the children have a responsibility to maintain a relationship as well as the parent. At what age can child support stop due to the children terminating the realtionship? Has anyone had thier child support terminated for this reason? I love my children very much. I have a 21 year son who is in the Navy and has resumed our relationship after he moved out of his mother's house. He calls me regularly and sent me a father's day card saying thanks for supporting him and keeping him out of trouble.