What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? HAWAII
hello All,
I lived in hawaii and married and had a baby girl born in 2000....after three years I had enough and threw the wife out...we each put TRO on each other. I kept my daughter. She called CPS and accused me of abuse against the child of the most horrible nature. So we go to court and the judge honors my TRO but not hers and gives me temporary custody while the investigation goes on. Long story short, CPS investigates and gives me custody and my wife can have supervised visits. The supervised visits are once a week and that goes fine for about 6 weeks and we go back to court. So the judge asks me if he thinks the mother can have the child on weekends unsupervised. I say yes. So thats how it goes for the next TEN YEARS...during this time we get an uncontested divorce and joint custody. BUT, like I said, my daughter was with me 10 years and saw her mom on weekends. They did not get along. More like sisters. So 10 years go by, I remarried after 7....no child support was exchanged this whole 10 years. I asked for none and she offered none. The way her brain works is that she insisted weekends were equal to weedays because she was in school weekdays. Anyway**************.....in 2013 when my daughter was 13 my mom back in NY got altheimers disease and without going into the details, my wife and I needed to go back and care for my mother. In hawaii, you cannot take a child away from the other parent. Besides we had joint custody in the divorce degree. And, my daughter was very into her friends and had a bus pass and was a city girl and taking her to upstate NY where she would have to be driven everywhere and be a stranger so it was decided she would stay. So we made a verbal agreement that I send some money every month for her bus pass and food and health care. In 3 years I sent money every month and brought her to visit NY 4x and visited there in hawaii once. She is coming in 29 days for a 5th visit.
Anyway, the ex and I had a argument over a trip that she decided on, sending my daughter on a school trip to europe costing 3500.00 and without consulting me, informed me I had to pay half....I told her no. My ex does not like being told no. I dont mind so much the trip except i was planning to take her for high school grad present to europe myself and can only afford one or the other. I discussed w my daughter and she will go w the school and i'll just give her my car when she grads as she is coming here for college. But I am punishing my ex by only paying 1000 toward the trip because she cant spend my money for me. She has to discuss 1st, spend after I agree. She is lucky she is even getting 1000 as I am out of work since March.
So this brings me to my question....when she learned i'll only pay a portion of the trip the **** hit the fan and the angry texts started and the threats to not let her come june 30th...and threats to go to court to get court appointed child support. I told her that if she does not allow my daughter to come, I will deduct money from the monthly payment until the 900 is paid off...non refundable tickets. So she flipped out again....but my question is...when and if, she goes to court to file for child support, what can I expect to happen......thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hello All,
I lived in hawaii and married and had a baby girl born in 2000....after three years I had enough and threw the wife out...we each put TRO on each other. I kept my daughter. She called CPS and accused me of abuse against the child of the most horrible nature. So we go to court and the judge honors my TRO but not hers and gives me temporary custody while the investigation goes on. Long story short, CPS investigates and gives me custody and my wife can have supervised visits. The supervised visits are once a week and that goes fine for about 6 weeks and we go back to court. So the judge asks me if he thinks the mother can have the child on weekends unsupervised. I say yes. So thats how it goes for the next TEN YEARS...during this time we get an uncontested divorce and joint custody. BUT, like I said, my daughter was with me 10 years and saw her mom on weekends. They did not get along. More like sisters. So 10 years go by, I remarried after 7....no child support was exchanged this whole 10 years. I asked for none and she offered none. The way her brain works is that she insisted weekends were equal to weedays because she was in school weekdays. Anyway**************.....in 2013 when my daughter was 13 my mom back in NY got altheimers disease and without going into the details, my wife and I needed to go back and care for my mother. In hawaii, you cannot take a child away from the other parent. Besides we had joint custody in the divorce degree. And, my daughter was very into her friends and had a bus pass and was a city girl and taking her to upstate NY where she would have to be driven everywhere and be a stranger so it was decided she would stay. So we made a verbal agreement that I send some money every month for her bus pass and food and health care. In 3 years I sent money every month and brought her to visit NY 4x and visited there in hawaii once. She is coming in 29 days for a 5th visit.
Anyway, the ex and I had a argument over a trip that she decided on, sending my daughter on a school trip to europe costing 3500.00 and without consulting me, informed me I had to pay half....I told her no. My ex does not like being told no. I dont mind so much the trip except i was planning to take her for high school grad present to europe myself and can only afford one or the other. I discussed w my daughter and she will go w the school and i'll just give her my car when she grads as she is coming here for college. But I am punishing my ex by only paying 1000 toward the trip because she cant spend my money for me. She has to discuss 1st, spend after I agree. She is lucky she is even getting 1000 as I am out of work since March.
So this brings me to my question....when she learned i'll only pay a portion of the trip the **** hit the fan and the angry texts started and the threats to not let her come june 30th...and threats to go to court to get court appointed child support. I told her that if she does not allow my daughter to come, I will deduct money from the monthly payment until the 900 is paid off...non refundable tickets. So she flipped out again....but my question is...when and if, she goes to court to file for child support, what can I expect to happen......thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!