Help I'm so lost, Please direct me according to Florida law.

[Afaimanifo]

Hello, I am the mother of an 8 year old son. I am the parent the child has always stayed with whenever the father and I had issues. I always took care of the whole family, I also have a 13 year old which isn't his. Anyway, the father lives 35 minutes away, I have never ever help our son back from seeing his father, no matter how bad things became between us. My ex didn't work for a very long time, and when he did he wouldn't always contribute his share, I had to take loans out which I still owe to carry us through his last lost job of 8 months. I owe $18,000 plus through the ten years we have been together (not married) I have supported him through so, so many hardships he has had. DUI, I let him live rent free for 5 years while starting a business that I have him money to start. I am letting you know all I have done for this man so you can understand how horribly wrong what I'm about to tell you really is. He finally got a job about five months ago that he seems happy and doing well with. He calls me from time to time to say he has to go out of state for work. We verbally made an agreement of visitation and child support. He pays $200 bi- weekly and gets him every single weekend and can have him more if he'd like, which he never does. I have been patient, kind and very "easy" thus far. He texted me a few days ago to tell me his two week business trip just turned into a month business trip. I don't say, hey that's your visitation time and your responsibility to find someone to care for him durning those times. I always say whatever you need is no problem. I'm just happy he's working. So after the conversation about his work, he knows I have a torn meniscus disc and have been in horrific pain for 5 years with it. I had surgery, take mediciation, get cordisone shots every three months as well as synvix. I am disabled and have a few Auto Immune diseases which make it worse. So I told him when he gets back from work, and is settled down I need to schedule a knee replacement. My insurance finally realizes I can't go on like this so they are ready to cover it. I took care of before and after care already so the only inconvinces to him is getting up one hour early so he can take him into school. I'm not sure if I mentioned he is the biggest narsasictic man, who is so incredibly lazy, he won't ever do anything to help with him. So he starts screaming immediately and getting upset saying, you wanted him full time custody and you got it. He said I'm not going to watch him. He went on an on saying if he watches him for the surgery he will take him from me as far as custody is concerned. I said it's not like I'm asking you to take him 50/ 50 and do half the work, I'm simply asking you to take care of your son so I can recover. He said "not my proble." Then I said well maybe I'll ask the judge for truly to take him 50 50 and no support between either one of us so I can get my knee done. I was angry and certainly didn't mean that. I just was so upset with everything I have done for him, let him off with money over the years, took care of all the bills and the boys completely. I just couldn't understand him being this way. Well he said you told me I didn't have to pay child support anymore I have it on a text. He sends over all this crap HE WROTE NOT ME, which proves nothing. He says he has in black and white that I said he no longer has to pay his support. Which I did not, I said IF HE WERE TO TAKE HIM 50 50 neither of us would have to pay. Now IF THAT AGREEMENT WERE IN PLANCE THEN I would understand. He told me he refused to pay support yesterday and was no longer paying it. We depend on this money badly. Every time a disagreement comes in to play he doesn't want to pay his support. I am disabled and I am on a very fixed income raising two boys. I know an attorney is what I need, I need him to represent me in establishing custody, and my son doesn't want to go there 50-50 I asked him yesterday. All I want is the child support I need to raise our son without having to beg him and ask every two weeks. My ex is hateful, mean and always trying to upset me. Knowing what a great job I do with our son who is autistic with ADHD. Our son failed first grade and I knew he needed help. I did wrote and gathered all sorts of scholarship applications and got our son a $13,000 scholarship. So now he gets the specialist he needs and is doing wonderfully.
The father is constantly talking trying to make things difficult because I am not with him. This is so out of hand. Please help me, please tell me there is something I can do!??!
Thank you in advance...

 

[Just Blue]

Hello, I am the mother of an 8 year old son. I am the parent the child has always stayed with whenever the father and I had issues. I always took care of the whole family, I also have a 13 year old which isn't his. Anyway, the father lives 35 minutes away, I have never ever help our son back from seeing his father, no matter how bad things became between us. My ex didn't work for a very long time, and when he did he wouldn't always contribute his share, I had to take loans out which I still owe to carry us through his last lost job of 8 months. I owe $18,000 plus through the ten years we have been together (not married) I have supported him through so, so many hardships he has had.

DUI, I let him live rent free for 5 years while starting a business that I have him money to start. I am letting you know all I have done for this man so you can understand how horribly wrong what I'm about to tell you really is. He finally got a job about five months ago that he seems happy and doing well with. He calls me from time to time to say he has to go out of state for work.

We verbally made an agreement of visitation and child support. He pays $200 bi- weekly and gets him every single weekend and can have him more if he'd like, which he never does. I have been patient, kind and very "easy" thus far. He texted me a few days ago to tell me his two week business trip just turned into a month business trip. I don't say, hey that's your visitation time and your responsibility to find someone to care for him durning those times. I always say whatever you need is no problem. I'm just happy he's working.

So after the conversation about his work, he knows I have a torn meniscus disc and have been in horrific pain for 5 years with it. I had surgery, take mediciation, get cordisone shots every three months as well as synvix. I am disabled and have a few Auto Immune diseases which make it worse. So I told him when he gets back from work, and is settled down I need to schedule a knee replacement. My insurance finally realizes I can't go on like this so they are ready to cover it. I took care of before and after care already so the only inconvinces to him is getting up one hour early so he can take him into school. I'm not sure if I mentioned he is the biggest narsasictic man, who is so incredibly lazy, he won't ever do anything to help with him. So he starts screaming immediately and getting upset saying, you wanted him full time custody and you got it. He said I'm not going to watch him. He went on an on saying if he watches him for the surgery he will take him from me as far as custody is concerned. I said it's not like I'm asking you to take him 50/ 50 and do half the work, I'm simply asking you to take care of your son so I can recover.

He said "not my proble." Then I said well maybe I'll ask the judge for truly to take him 50 50 and no support between either one of us so I can get my knee done. I was angry and certainly didn't mean that. I just was so upset with everything I have done for him, let him off with money over the years, took care of all the bills and the boys completely. I just couldn't understand him being this way. Well he said you told me I didn't have to pay child support anymore I have it on a text. He sends over all this crap HE WROTE NOT ME, which proves nothing. He says he has in black and white that I said he no longer has to pay his support. Which I did not, I said IF HE WERE TO TAKE HIM 50 50 neither of us would have to pay. Now IF THAT AGREEMENT WERE IN PLANCE THEN I would understand. He told me he refused to pay support yesterday and was no longer paying it. We depend on this money badly. Every time a disagreement comes in to play he doesn't want to pay his support.

I am disabled and I am on a very fixed income raising two boys. I know an attorney is what I need, I need him to represent me in establishing custody, and my son doesn't want to go there 50-50 I asked him yesterday. All I want is the child support I need to raise our son without having to beg him and ask every two weeks. My ex is hateful, mean and always trying to upset me. Knowing what a great job I do with our son who is autistic with ADHD. Our son failed first grade and I knew he needed help.

I did wrote and gathered all sorts of scholarship applications and got our son a $13,000 scholarship. So now he gets the specialist he needs and is doing wonderfully.
The father is constantly talking trying to make things difficult because I am not with him. This is so out of hand. Please help me, please tell me there is something I can do!??!
Thank you in advance...

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[Ohiogal]

1) You can't force dad to take a child for visitation. Visitation is a right and not an obligation.
2) Dad doesn't have to pay ANY child support without a court order. Be grateful he has given you any money.
3) You have brought up many things that do not matter -- you working while living with him and letting him live rent free, your other child, so on and so forth.
4) If dad has visitation, he doesn't have to find someone to watch the child on his time if he doesn't exercise his visitation (see #1).
5) Find someone else to watch the child while you are having surgery.
6) Go to court for court orders of child support and custody.