What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? kansas
I am a single father of 2, both have different mothers. My oldest is 9 and her mother and I were married. I pay child support as ordered by the state (I send a check monthly) and I get to see my daughter pretty much anytime I want. My son is 2 ½ and his mother and I are not so agreeable. Again, I pay child support as ordered by the court (this case is actually taken from my paycheck). I try my hardest to accommodate, but the truth is that my job is not conducive to a personal life. I work 60 to 65 hours a week over 6 days. My day off is different from week to week and most of the time, that day isn’t determined til the previous Friday. I always ask when trying to see him and I understand anytime that she says no. I get it that my hectic schedule isn’t easy to deal with and they sometimes already have something going on.
The problem is that she (the mother of the 2 ½ year old) is saying that she wants me to have him every Saturday now, and if I have to work, then I have to pay for day care for that day (and I don’t get to see him). She even asked her daycare provider and they offered to let me pay them just 30 dollars for the day each week. Working all these hours provides me the means to do this; I am just worried that a judge may determine in the future that I agreed to a potential $120.00 a month more than the monthly child support required and that I will be required to pay that much every month. The problem is that I won’t have theses hours year round and I wouldn’t be able to do this.
If I agree to this deal, will that cause me a problem in the courts in the future? She has told me that she is going to get the support order redone when he turns 3 and it should go up. I am not trying to be a dead beat dad or screw her over, im just trying to be smart about my decisions and interactions with her.
I am a single father of 2, both have different mothers. My oldest is 9 and her mother and I were married. I pay child support as ordered by the state (I send a check monthly) and I get to see my daughter pretty much anytime I want. My son is 2 ½ and his mother and I are not so agreeable. Again, I pay child support as ordered by the court (this case is actually taken from my paycheck). I try my hardest to accommodate, but the truth is that my job is not conducive to a personal life. I work 60 to 65 hours a week over 6 days. My day off is different from week to week and most of the time, that day isn’t determined til the previous Friday. I always ask when trying to see him and I understand anytime that she says no. I get it that my hectic schedule isn’t easy to deal with and they sometimes already have something going on.
The problem is that she (the mother of the 2 ½ year old) is saying that she wants me to have him every Saturday now, and if I have to work, then I have to pay for day care for that day (and I don’t get to see him). She even asked her daycare provider and they offered to let me pay them just 30 dollars for the day each week. Working all these hours provides me the means to do this; I am just worried that a judge may determine in the future that I agreed to a potential $120.00 a month more than the monthly child support required and that I will be required to pay that much every month. The problem is that I won’t have theses hours year round and I wouldn’t be able to do this.
If I agree to this deal, will that cause me a problem in the courts in the future? She has told me that she is going to get the support order redone when he turns 3 and it should go up. I am not trying to be a dead beat dad or screw her over, im just trying to be smart about my decisions and interactions with her.
