Theresia said:
I just checked out the above named site to try and help fathers with their child support dilemma. Unfortunately I can't even affort to purchase the softwear to help my husband! He pays $600 a month for one child and is now being taken back to court for more money. The ex drives a 2004 car, her husband a 2002. I drive a '95 and my husband drives a '96. The ex hasn't worked in over a year, yet is remodeling her house, dresses to the hilt in designer clothes...etc. We can't afford better vehicles because evidently we're making her car payments! Shouldn't it be a factor in this court case that she is not supporting her child one bit with her own income? Now her lawyer is penalizing my husband for his 401K contributions. They want 20% of his money before the 401K amount is taken out. We live paycheck to paycheck and now it will be even harder. I work also, but seems like we're getting nowhere. Doesn't it make a difference in the court system if she doesn't work at all? Please let me know. , shouldn't she be contributing some kind of support herself?
Ummm..... I would say she is 'supporting' her HALF of the child by using her husbands income. Which is her right. Heck YOU could pay your husbands child support amount and the court would not care as long as it got paid.
her getting a job, depending on your states child support system could possibly make no difference in what your husband pays or RAISE his support believe it or not.
most states give the custodial parent a certain amount 'credit" towards being the one to actually HOUSE the child. So in those cases she would have to meet a certain income amount before her pay was even considered as "extra".
Also, depending on the age of the child involved her working may cause you to incur child care costs.
If she had a job could you really suddenly justify her new cars, designer clothes, and remodeled house? Somehow, I don't think so.
my husband has an ex-wife who I consider an imbecilic money sucking wacko,I have long since gotten over getting upset at what she considers responsible parenting, my husband takes care of his parenting responsibility and thats what counts. When her Gravy Train crashes in 10 years, she will likely be living in a cardboard box, while my husband and I will be reaping the benifits of proper financial planning for the future.
honestly, this is more "emotional" than anything else, let go of the "comparison game" your life will be made easier for it.