What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado
My ex-girlfriend is disabled and has 3 children. The children are now 14, 15 and 17 years old. Her ex-husband pays child support. She has no income besides disability which she does not need to count for child support calculations. She and her children live in a typical middle class home in Castle Rock, Colorado. Back when we were boyfriend and girlfriend, she was having trouble making the mortgage payments. So, I moved in with her and the kids and contributed $1000 a month to the household to help with the mortgage and cover any increase to household expenses I caused. When in court to adjust child support the judge said that any money that I was contributing to the household over and above my household expenses was considered a gift to her. That money was then considered income to her for purposes of child support calculations. This reduced her ex-husband’s child support and therefore defeated the purpose of me contributing to the household. We have since ended our relationship and I have moved out and her ex-husband’s child support has been increased.
My first question is this: she is once again having trouble making mortgage payments. I still care for the children and their well being. I would like to help them stay in the house at least until they are out of high school. How can I contribute money to help pay the mortgage without it effectively decreasing her ex-husband’s child support, therefore defeating the purpose of my contributions?
My second question is: I have a life insurance policy that I would like to have the kids benefit from in the event something happened to me (again to help keep them in the house). How can I make the children or their mother the beneficiaries of my life insurance policy without a payout, again, reducing her ex-husband’s child support payments?
Thank you for any advice.
My ex-girlfriend is disabled and has 3 children. The children are now 14, 15 and 17 years old. Her ex-husband pays child support. She has no income besides disability which she does not need to count for child support calculations. She and her children live in a typical middle class home in Castle Rock, Colorado. Back when we were boyfriend and girlfriend, she was having trouble making the mortgage payments. So, I moved in with her and the kids and contributed $1000 a month to the household to help with the mortgage and cover any increase to household expenses I caused. When in court to adjust child support the judge said that any money that I was contributing to the household over and above my household expenses was considered a gift to her. That money was then considered income to her for purposes of child support calculations. This reduced her ex-husband’s child support and therefore defeated the purpose of me contributing to the household. We have since ended our relationship and I have moved out and her ex-husband’s child support has been increased.
My first question is this: she is once again having trouble making mortgage payments. I still care for the children and their well being. I would like to help them stay in the house at least until they are out of high school. How can I contribute money to help pay the mortgage without it effectively decreasing her ex-husband’s child support, therefore defeating the purpose of my contributions?
My second question is: I have a life insurance policy that I would like to have the kids benefit from in the event something happened to me (again to help keep them in the house). How can I make the children or their mother the beneficiaries of my life insurance policy without a payout, again, reducing her ex-husband’s child support payments?
Thank you for any advice.