angeleyzad
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What is the name of your state? ME
Okay, I had court last month, one of the items was to reduce child support due to his extra traveling, as my ex had moved almost double the distance from me and the kids. He had testified under oath that he traveled the route of the turnpike, which put the travel distance at 226 miles. I knew that he used another route, which was more direct, at 165 miles. He testified that he did not use that route, as it was longer (which in actuality is not the case), and it was back mountain roads (again, not really the case - just not the highway). The judge used his mileage due to the time difference on the printouts.
Fast forward to last night/this morning. The boys had to stay another night with their dad because we had a storm the day they were supposed to be home. So they got home last night, and their dad says to both boys, "Make sure you remember to tell your teachers about the moose we saw." So, this morning, on the way to daycare, the younger one (5 years old, in Kindergarten) said to me, guess what, we saw a moose last night on the way home. I asked where they saw it, (thinking to myself, Maine, New Hampshire, or Vermont...the states they have to travel through to get home). They both chimed in "on the Kangamangus". So, I casually asked if that's the way they came home, they both said yes. They went on further to say that's the way they always go. I made a comment to myself, which unfortunately they heard, saying that he lied in court. The oldest (7 years old, 2nd grade) then started crying saying that he lied to his Dad. I asked him why, and he said that Dad had asked them if I questioned the boys about the way they go home or to Dad's, to which they had told him no. I tired to explain that actually, they didn't lie to Dad, because I didn't ask them, they had told me in talking about the moose. (I didn't want my oldest to be upset).
Here's the questions - I'm not sure how to deal with this. First of all, the perjury issue. I do have a motion to reconsider in the works now, because he had moved and the new house he lives in has a different mileage than his old house (he was int he process of moving when we went to court, which he never disclosed the new location). Second of all, how do I deal with what he's doing to the boys? He's putting them in the middle all the time, any time he has a question, he has the boys ask me (or the oldest one, anyway).
Okay, I had court last month, one of the items was to reduce child support due to his extra traveling, as my ex had moved almost double the distance from me and the kids. He had testified under oath that he traveled the route of the turnpike, which put the travel distance at 226 miles. I knew that he used another route, which was more direct, at 165 miles. He testified that he did not use that route, as it was longer (which in actuality is not the case), and it was back mountain roads (again, not really the case - just not the highway). The judge used his mileage due to the time difference on the printouts.
Fast forward to last night/this morning. The boys had to stay another night with their dad because we had a storm the day they were supposed to be home. So they got home last night, and their dad says to both boys, "Make sure you remember to tell your teachers about the moose we saw." So, this morning, on the way to daycare, the younger one (5 years old, in Kindergarten) said to me, guess what, we saw a moose last night on the way home. I asked where they saw it, (thinking to myself, Maine, New Hampshire, or Vermont...the states they have to travel through to get home). They both chimed in "on the Kangamangus". So, I casually asked if that's the way they came home, they both said yes. They went on further to say that's the way they always go. I made a comment to myself, which unfortunately they heard, saying that he lied in court. The oldest (7 years old, 2nd grade) then started crying saying that he lied to his Dad. I asked him why, and he said that Dad had asked them if I questioned the boys about the way they go home or to Dad's, to which they had told him no. I tired to explain that actually, they didn't lie to Dad, because I didn't ask them, they had told me in talking about the moose. (I didn't want my oldest to be upset).
Here's the questions - I'm not sure how to deal with this. First of all, the perjury issue. I do have a motion to reconsider in the works now, because he had moved and the new house he lives in has a different mileage than his old house (he was int he process of moving when we went to court, which he never disclosed the new location). Second of all, how do I deal with what he's doing to the boys? He's putting them in the middle all the time, any time he has a question, he has the boys ask me (or the oldest one, anyway).