sistahnparadise
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Fl/HI
Hi I am recently married and my husband who is curretnly in the military and deployed with OIF recently sent me a letter and said that his ex girlfriend (highschool) has opened a child support case on him. I was aware of the aleeged child however since 1999 my husband and I have moved around quite a bit b/c of the military and have not been able to establish paternity with the child. I have told him over and over that he needs to take care of this situation. Now we are forced to since she has opened a case. ALthough he is deployed and will be for a year what steps can we take. Obviously we would like to first establish paternity. Next we would like to avoid paying court ordered monthly child support to this lady. He has in the past sent money 2 her and we do have cancelled checks bank statements etc. However the lady has since married and her husband has been a vital roll in the childs life. My husband is a godd man however we are in a difficult position seeing as how the lady always picks arguments with him and does not acknowledge me as his wife and therfore makes it difficult for him to have relationship with the child. This is compounded with the fact that he is always deployed to remote locations for periods of up to 9 months so it is really difficult for him to see her or me!!!
I guess our basic questions/steps are to
1. Establish Paternity
2. Determine what role he can have with this child.
He has considered giving full custody to the lady's husband (not as a means of getting out of payments but jsut so the child can have some continuity in his life).
3. Payments/etc.
Obviosuly he would setlle on providing health care.
Please help us
Hi I am recently married and my husband who is curretnly in the military and deployed with OIF recently sent me a letter and said that his ex girlfriend (highschool) has opened a child support case on him. I was aware of the aleeged child however since 1999 my husband and I have moved around quite a bit b/c of the military and have not been able to establish paternity with the child. I have told him over and over that he needs to take care of this situation. Now we are forced to since she has opened a case. ALthough he is deployed and will be for a year what steps can we take. Obviously we would like to first establish paternity. Next we would like to avoid paying court ordered monthly child support to this lady. He has in the past sent money 2 her and we do have cancelled checks bank statements etc. However the lady has since married and her husband has been a vital roll in the childs life. My husband is a godd man however we are in a difficult position seeing as how the lady always picks arguments with him and does not acknowledge me as his wife and therfore makes it difficult for him to have relationship with the child. This is compounded with the fact that he is always deployed to remote locations for periods of up to 9 months so it is really difficult for him to see her or me!!!
I guess our basic questions/steps are to
1. Establish Paternity
2. Determine what role he can have with this child.
He has considered giving full custody to the lady's husband (not as a means of getting out of payments but jsut so the child can have some continuity in his life).
3. Payments/etc.
Obviosuly he would setlle on providing health care.
Please help us