Husband's Ex is greedy and selfish

[leetha18]

What is the name of your state? TENNESSEE

My husband's ex is greedy and selfish. She gets CS and wants more. She has custody but child is with us more than 50% of the time. Husband won't go to court to get custody or modify CS because every time he has gone he has been screwed. In the past he could not afford a lawyer so he got stuck. He says the courts are for the women. His ex is threatening to take him back to court for more support. We have a child together and he has two daughters from previous marriages (one is 21yrs old now). The child in this situation is 16. What are the laws in Tennessee concerning how long support is paid? Child says her mother never does anything for her and refuses to give her any money or buy her new clothes. Which is true because we have to buy her clothes, school supplies, and extra-curricular stuff. I don't want to wish away time but, man, I can't wait until she is 18 and we don't have to deal with her mother anymore.

[Zephyr]

What are the laws in Tennessee concerning how long support is paid?



I think this is the only question in the post... He would have to look at his order to be sure, it's either 18 or when child graduates high school, unless he has one of those orders that includes cs during college.

Originally Posted by leetha18

What is the name of your state? TENNESSEE

My husband's ex is greedy and selfish. She gets CS and wants more. She has custody but child is with us more than 50% of the time. Husband won't go to court to get custody or modify CS because every time he has gone he has been screwed. In the past he could not afford a lawyer so he got stuck. He says the courts are for the women. His ex is threatening to take him back to court for more support. We have a child together and he has two daughters from previous marriages (one is 21yrs old now). The child in this situation is 16. What are the laws in Tennessee concerning how long support is paid? Child says her mother never does anything for her and refuses to give her any money or buy her new clothes. Which is true because we have to buy her clothes, school supplies, and extra-curricular stuff. I don't want to wish away time but, man, I can't wait until she is 18 and we don't have to deal with her mother anymore.

She can threaten all she wants, but there are guidelines in place to prevent the trash out there who think cs is a paycheck from asking for any amount THEY see fit.

Has the cs been modified recently (within state guidelines, which is usually approx 36 months or whenever there is a life-changing event)? Did your husband seek a modification when you had your child together?
If she is getting the amount of child support per state guidelines, she really has nothing.

Plus, I'd also research more on the child support guidelines and laws in your state -- paying particular attention to who has the child the most -- if your husband has the child more then 50% of the time, the amount *should* reflect that. He shouldn't be afraid to file a modification -- yes, the courts are pro-women and also pro-attorney. It usually does benefit a client seeking a modification downward to have an attorney.

[leetha18]

I think the order does say he has to pay if child goes to college. But does that mean full-time, any college, trade school? I am so aggravated at his ex. She is super nice to me on the phone (because she knows I won't take her crap) but when she talks to him, she threatens to raise support.

[BelizeBreeze]

Originally Posted by leetha18

I think the order does say he has to pay if child goes to college. But does that mean full-time, any college, trade school? I am so aggravated at his ex. She is super nice to me on the phone (because she knows I won't take her crap) but when she talks to him, she threatens to raise support.

This is less an issue with the ex than it is your hubby growing some cajones.

[NCP Dad in TN]

Their Order should say explicitly when support will end.
TN has recently changed their laws regarding how CS is calculated... now both parents incomes are considered, as well as additional children the paying parent is supporting, and substantial visitation is also a factor.
You can calculate the CS using the new formula at the following website....

[url]http://www.tennessee.gov/humanserv/is/incomeshares.htm[/url]

[leetha18]

Ex made it clear to my husband that their CS order is due for adjustment. He has never asked for it to be adjusted.
I'm not sure if she is getting all she can get.
He recently (last week) got a promotion. I don't know if she knows it or not. She may know and that is why all the talk about raising it. The pay isn't a lot greater than what he is getting now. But she will try to hike it up and take what little extra he would be getting. I can't stand her. She lives with someone that is supporting her. She works PRN (as needed) and goes to school off an on. She has NO bills (except her cell phone and whatever credit card debt she accumulated after the divorce). She just doesn't want him to have anything. I guess I am just going to have to get the CO. That is a public document, right?

[Zephyr]

That is a public document, right?


I don't think so, but your husband should have no problem providing you with a copy.