I don't want to collect child support

[seraphs_envy]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida


My ex and I both spend an equal amount of time with our children, they are at my house half the time and they are at his house half the time. We split the cost of childcare and anything else that accumulates cost wise. We have mutually agreed not to collect child support. Because we both see them equally and spend an equal amount on them, we feel there is no need for child support. However, I have been pressured to collect it. How can I go about coming to a legal agreement in order to refuse child support and will the state of Florida allow it? I know child support is mandated in a divorce settlement, but we were never married. Is it possible to have something written up stating that child support will not be collected and have it recognized as legal?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

[Perky]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida


My ex and I both spend an equal amount of time with our children, they are at my house half the time and they are at his house half the time. We split the cost of childcare and anything else that accumulates cost wise. We have mutually agreed not to collect child support. Because we both see them equally and spend an equal amount on them, we feel there is no need for child support. However, I have been pressured to collect it. How can I go about coming to a legal agreement in order to refuse child support and will the state of Florida allow it? I know child support is mandated in a divorce settlement, but we were never married. Is it possible to have something written up stating that child support will not be collected and have it recognized as legal?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Who's pressuring you? Are you receiving any aid?

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

It is possible to have the child support "reserved." It would take a change in circumstances to resurrect it. Now, if the children are receiving medicaid, they won't let the "no child support" go, unless BOTH parents are low income AND they have a 50/50 split.

Now, you get along just dandy right now. It still is a good idea to have your arrangement documented in case the feelings go south. you can have it documented and signed - then the stipulation can be signed off by the judge and entered in then as a court order.

[MominCarolina]

I would highly recommend at the very least get your agreement in writing and processed through the court.

You need to address who will be responsible for paying what costs, and who is responsible for reimbursing. You will need to address when reimbursment is expected.

This would be for the protection of both of you.

[Gracie3787]

Who's pressuring you? Are you receiving any aid?

This question must be answered before we can give any real help.

[Drake01]

In most states even in 50/50 splits the state wants the higher earner to pay a child support. The state has a vested interest in seeing at least a small child support collected. No CS collected equals no matching federal dollars and no profits for the state. You can press the issue, but you'll probably have an easier time having the state collect some money and then just giving it back to the payor as you believe child support is unneccessary. Once the state can put the money on their ledgers to collect from the feds they aren't going to care in the least what you do with it after that.

[stealth2]

In most states even in 50/50 splits the state wants the higher earner to pay a child support. The state has a vested interest in seeing at least a small child support collected. No CS collected equals no matching federal dollars and no profits for the state. You can press the issue, but you'll probably have an easier time having the state collect some money and then just giving it back to the payor as you believe child support is unneccessary. Once the state can put the money on their ledgers to collect from the feds they aren't going to care in the least what you do with it after that.

Oh please.

[Isis1]

Oh please.

wasn't that advice a little too close to fraud?

[Drake01]

Oh please.

Because we all know the government is never motiviated in its policy by money.

[Drake01]

wasn't that advice a little too close to fraud?

What the payee does with the child support is completely up to him/her. Who exactly is being defrauded?

[dad in ohio]

i still want to know who is "presuring" to file for support?

If your system is working for you leave it alone... OUr goverment thinks there should be a support order becasue it keeps people in jobs at your local agency's... My ex and I were going to do just that until she talked to a "case worker" and the next day she filed for support and instead of us working it out and it being fair.. She gets a large chunk of change and i wont lie its caused allot of harm to our parenting relationship.... I say dont rock the boat.

[StampGirl]

i still want to know who is "presuring" to file for support?

If your system is working for you leave it alone... OUr goverment thinks there should be a support order becasue it keeps people in jobs at your local agency's... My ex and I were going to do just that until she talked to a "case worker" and the next day she filed for support and instead of us working it out and it being fair.. She gets a large chunk of change and i wont lie its caused allot of harm to our parenting relationship.... I say dont rock the boat.

Oh boo hoo. It is fair for you. She hardly gets " a large chunk of change". Puleeze. I read your thread. You pay approx $450 a month in child support. If you think that even comes CLOSE to helping to support your child you are dreaming.

[Silverplum]

dadinohio, you are hijacking another's thread. Stop that. If you want to complain some more, go to YOUR thread and do it there.

[dad in ohio]

silverplum - I was commenting back to stampgirl's post

[CJane]

In most states even in 50/50 splits the state wants the higher earner to pay a child support. The state has a vested interest in seeing at least a small child support collected. No CS collected equals no matching federal dollars and no profits for the state. You can press the issue, but you'll probably have an easier time having the state collect some money and then just giving it back to the payor as you believe child support is unneccessary. Once the state can put the money on their ledgers to collect from the feds they aren't going to care in the least what you do with it after that.

You're an idiot.

Let me guess. You read on some 'father's rights' website somewhere that the state gets 'matching dollars' for every child support order in existence and they're therefore making money hand over fist off of you poor down-trodden souls who only want what's best for your children unless/until it impacts whether or not you can buy a Harley. Right?

My suggestion(s)?

Read up on the 'matching funds'. WHAT the feds match, what PERCENTAGE they match, what the monies are applied TO, etc.

Assume that 1/2 of what you read on a 'father's rights' site is completely fabricated and the other 1/2 is grossly exaggerated in an attempt to paint the peniied ones as victims of some insidious game created by the vaginaed ones.

And yes, I collect child support for one of my children. And GLADLY pay it for the other 2. Because it isn't about ME OR my vagina.