allhaileris
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
My husband was arrested a few weeks ago during a traffic stop for contempt of court in Orange County. 1 count of failure to appear and 13 counts of failing to pay child support. These are from 2000/2001 and he went to court in Sonoma county to settle his child support for kid#2 and they tacked on the support for kid#1 at the same time. He had no idea that this was still sitting there.
He says he did get the supena a day before he moved out of state (planned move, not an escape). He did not pay at the time because his mother was going crazy with Alzheimers ans was paying for her care, his GF was pregnant and had kid#2 and I think he was tapped emotionally and financially. His mother is now dead.
He has been paying for both kids since he went to court in Sonoma, but it's never been what it should've been. He's mostly a SAHD, but earns some money part time so he can pay at least something. Yes, I've bugged him for years trying to get him to get a job, even a part time one but he refuses. BUT, he does take care of our daughter who is special needs, I'm dealing with 24/7 pain and depression, and I work because he could never make what I make.
I can not have him go to jail. He'll crack, he already has some issues and has been a complete nut since he got arrested. He keeps saying he's going to spend like a year in jail. How likely will he have to do this? He has no other record. Can they give him some other punishment instead so he can support his family? I can't afford to pay for a babysitter for my daughter for afterschool care and make too much for any aid. Will they take into account that he has been paying half his paycheck for many years? What is the reality in all of this? What is most likely to happen?
And please, no bashing. I'm fragile enough as it is right now.
My husband was arrested a few weeks ago during a traffic stop for contempt of court in Orange County. 1 count of failure to appear and 13 counts of failing to pay child support. These are from 2000/2001 and he went to court in Sonoma county to settle his child support for kid#2 and they tacked on the support for kid#1 at the same time. He had no idea that this was still sitting there.
He says he did get the supena a day before he moved out of state (planned move, not an escape). He did not pay at the time because his mother was going crazy with Alzheimers ans was paying for her care, his GF was pregnant and had kid#2 and I think he was tapped emotionally and financially. His mother is now dead.
He has been paying for both kids since he went to court in Sonoma, but it's never been what it should've been. He's mostly a SAHD, but earns some money part time so he can pay at least something. Yes, I've bugged him for years trying to get him to get a job, even a part time one but he refuses. BUT, he does take care of our daughter who is special needs, I'm dealing with 24/7 pain and depression, and I work because he could never make what I make.
I can not have him go to jail. He'll crack, he already has some issues and has been a complete nut since he got arrested. He keeps saying he's going to spend like a year in jail. How likely will he have to do this? He has no other record. Can they give him some other punishment instead so he can support his family? I can't afford to pay for a babysitter for my daughter for afterschool care and make too much for any aid. Will they take into account that he has been paying half his paycheck for many years? What is the reality in all of this? What is most likely to happen?
And please, no bashing. I'm fragile enough as it is right now.
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