CJane
Senior Member
What is the name of your state? MO
Ok, my exBF is very willing to pay child support, but we've been letting the state handle the order, etc for a couple of reasons. (Mostly because we're both clients of the same law firm and therefore have been advised by our attornies to let the state handle it rather than retaining other attornies).
It's taking FOREVER to get the order through (duh, I've heard that the states take forever).
SO, I spoke to the exBF today, and he wants to start paying now rather than waiting for the state to decide to issue an order, but neither one of us want him to end up paying twice if the state considers the $ a gift and assesses back support.
I've left a message with the caseworker at DSS, but thought I could get some answers here too.
How can we avoid him getting screwed by the system if he pays without an order in place?
Would my signing an affidavit stating that I consider the $ to be child support enough?
If he's paying more than the state guideline while awaiting an order, is he going to be stuck paying that forever because he's shown that he can, or will the state most likely order whatever the Form 14 says he should pay?
He signed the AOP at the hospital, and there's no question the lil clone is his... but he was advised by 'someone' that the state is going to require a DNA test anyway. Any ideas on the truth of this?
If the state IS going to require a DNA test anyway, can we have that done now (he's willing to pay for it) at a lab and have the results available to the state if/when they request them, or do we risk the state requiring their 'own' DNA test?
I think that's all the questions I have for now.
Essentially, I want to know how he can pay support without getting screwed over completely when the state finally DOES issue orders.
Ok, my exBF is very willing to pay child support, but we've been letting the state handle the order, etc for a couple of reasons. (Mostly because we're both clients of the same law firm and therefore have been advised by our attornies to let the state handle it rather than retaining other attornies).
It's taking FOREVER to get the order through (duh, I've heard that the states take forever).
SO, I spoke to the exBF today, and he wants to start paying now rather than waiting for the state to decide to issue an order, but neither one of us want him to end up paying twice if the state considers the $ a gift and assesses back support.
I've left a message with the caseworker at DSS, but thought I could get some answers here too.
How can we avoid him getting screwed by the system if he pays without an order in place?
Would my signing an affidavit stating that I consider the $ to be child support enough?
If he's paying more than the state guideline while awaiting an order, is he going to be stuck paying that forever because he's shown that he can, or will the state most likely order whatever the Form 14 says he should pay?
He signed the AOP at the hospital, and there's no question the lil clone is his... but he was advised by 'someone' that the state is going to require a DNA test anyway. Any ideas on the truth of this?
If the state IS going to require a DNA test anyway, can we have that done now (he's willing to pay for it) at a lab and have the results available to the state if/when they request them, or do we risk the state requiring their 'own' DNA test?
I think that's all the questions I have for now.
Essentially, I want to know how he can pay support without getting screwed over completely when the state finally DOES issue orders.