What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Idaho
17 years ago I knew I got my girlfriend pregnant. She took off before the baby was born and moved out of state. I tried to fight and get custody/visitation, but I was shut down because she stated that I was not the father. She then married someone else before the baby was born and put his name on the birth certificate. 17 years later, shes getting a divorce, he doesn't want to pay child support on a child that isn't his, and they came clean and I was finally introduced to my son last week. He now hates the man he thought was his father, wants to change his last name to mine, and wants to move in with me when his mother moves out of town again next month. My name is not on the birth certificate and although she stated verbally she doesn't want child support or anything else other than for her son and I to try and catch up on 17 years, my wife of 15 years is skeptical. She is concerned that she will attack us with child support, and medical bills and so on. The ex has agreed to sign papers declaring she wont come after us. We cant afford a lawyer, and we know some things can be done with out a lawyer. If we were to draw up our own contract and have it signed in front of a notary, what should it say? What specifics should we cover? Can we have it filed with the court? Any advice would be appreciated.
17 years ago I knew I got my girlfriend pregnant. She took off before the baby was born and moved out of state. I tried to fight and get custody/visitation, but I was shut down because she stated that I was not the father. She then married someone else before the baby was born and put his name on the birth certificate. 17 years later, shes getting a divorce, he doesn't want to pay child support on a child that isn't his, and they came clean and I was finally introduced to my son last week. He now hates the man he thought was his father, wants to change his last name to mine, and wants to move in with me when his mother moves out of town again next month. My name is not on the birth certificate and although she stated verbally she doesn't want child support or anything else other than for her son and I to try and catch up on 17 years, my wife of 15 years is skeptical. She is concerned that she will attack us with child support, and medical bills and so on. The ex has agreed to sign papers declaring she wont come after us. We cant afford a lawyer, and we know some things can be done with out a lawyer. If we were to draw up our own contract and have it signed in front of a notary, what should it say? What specifics should we cover? Can we have it filed with the court? Any advice would be appreciated.