SinglePopMN
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? : Minnesota
I filed the Motion to Modify Child Support in November and have a court date coming up in January. I initially filed because I was working full-time when the current order was established, and I am now working part-time to attend college. But now my son is living with me full-time and has been for the past few months. I am thinking about asking them to allow my arrear forgiveness letter from the mother. I have been paying her biweekly child support in cash (like an idiot!) for the past few years, and when they started our support case again in September, I was charged for support that I "missed." The amount that I owe specifically to her and not the state (as she was and is on assistance), is about $1200. I have been paying her far more than that for the last couple of years, and am wondering if I have a valid case here? I was told by my CSO that in order to get it forgiven, I would have to ask her to sign an arrears forgiveness document. She has said that she is willing to sign it, I just need to draft it up. She may not be so willing after she finds out that I am filing a petition to establish custody and parenting time (we have no order currently set--so I have NO real rights according to the state of MN). Any advice? Recommendations for inclusions in the Arrears Forgiveness document? Is she allowed to go "back" on her forgiveness if she gets mad about the Custody stuff? She's not a very nice or forgiving person, and I think I have an overwhelming case in my favor for Sole Physical Custody according to the 13 Best Interest Factors. Just a little worried there will be negative repercussions coming soon and hoping to get my ducks in line before the storm.
I filed the Motion to Modify Child Support in November and have a court date coming up in January. I initially filed because I was working full-time when the current order was established, and I am now working part-time to attend college. But now my son is living with me full-time and has been for the past few months. I am thinking about asking them to allow my arrear forgiveness letter from the mother. I have been paying her biweekly child support in cash (like an idiot!) for the past few years, and when they started our support case again in September, I was charged for support that I "missed." The amount that I owe specifically to her and not the state (as she was and is on assistance), is about $1200. I have been paying her far more than that for the last couple of years, and am wondering if I have a valid case here? I was told by my CSO that in order to get it forgiven, I would have to ask her to sign an arrears forgiveness document. She has said that she is willing to sign it, I just need to draft it up. She may not be so willing after she finds out that I am filing a petition to establish custody and parenting time (we have no order currently set--so I have NO real rights according to the state of MN). Any advice? Recommendations for inclusions in the Arrears Forgiveness document? Is she allowed to go "back" on her forgiveness if she gets mad about the Custody stuff? She's not a very nice or forgiving person, and I think I have an overwhelming case in my favor for Sole Physical Custody according to the 13 Best Interest Factors. Just a little worried there will be negative repercussions coming soon and hoping to get my ducks in line before the storm.