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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
The state of residence is Virginia. Here is the situation... my husband's ex-wife has all these different claims she keeps making that are absurd. The mother has the child living with her. She is unable to handle him; his behavior is horrible, the child is now unable to attend the child care school he attended because of it. She states all the time that he is hitting her, gets in trouble, etc. My husband says that he thinks he should have child should be with him for at least a for almost a year because he needs structure and disipline. She say she does not trust him eventhough he has had him many times before, and this behavior is not to the degree that it is with her when he is here at all. She says that she will do for a month or so to see how it goes, but we do not trust her at all because she has threatened to take him while he was visiting if she is upset for any little thing. Who is to say she won't do it then? We say if he is here for a long period of permanant time, they need to get the court order for child support he is paying dropped, and she should be required to pay support just like him. She got angry and said it is "only about the money". Her reasoning for saying she does not have to pay even if he is here permanantly is because he remarried and divorced her (eventhough they were already seperated, and already in the process of getting divorced, he just paid it)! What in the world, how is that a reason to not pay child support if the child is with the other parent permenantly?? She also makes every visit to us horrible, because she is threatening to take him the time he is here, starting drama if everything does not go her way etc. which makes my husband sadly not even want to take him because he has to deal with all her drama. The only court order that is in place is for child support he pays, nothing else. Any advice on these thing for what to do??
Thanks
The state of residence is Virginia. Here is the situation... my husband's ex-wife has all these different claims she keeps making that are absurd. The mother has the child living with her. She is unable to handle him; his behavior is horrible, the child is now unable to attend the child care school he attended because of it. She states all the time that he is hitting her, gets in trouble, etc. My husband says that he thinks he should have child should be with him for at least a for almost a year because he needs structure and disipline. She say she does not trust him eventhough he has had him many times before, and this behavior is not to the degree that it is with her when he is here at all. She says that she will do for a month or so to see how it goes, but we do not trust her at all because she has threatened to take him while he was visiting if she is upset for any little thing. Who is to say she won't do it then? We say if he is here for a long period of permanant time, they need to get the court order for child support he is paying dropped, and she should be required to pay support just like him. She got angry and said it is "only about the money". Her reasoning for saying she does not have to pay even if he is here permanantly is because he remarried and divorced her (eventhough they were already seperated, and already in the process of getting divorced, he just paid it)! What in the world, how is that a reason to not pay child support if the child is with the other parent permenantly?? She also makes every visit to us horrible, because she is threatening to take him the time he is here, starting drama if everything does not go her way etc. which makes my husband sadly not even want to take him because he has to deal with all her drama. The only court order that is in place is for child support he pays, nothing else. Any advice on these thing for what to do??
Thanks