What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ
About 20 years ago I had a child with someone who I was very much in love with while both living in NJ. I was named on the birth certificate (and was there for the birth) and fully believe and agree that I was/am the father. My child was given my last name. We fought quite a bit after our child was born. Mostly about money and living conditions as we were young, dumb, and not really ready.
One day I came home from work to find my girlfriend and our child gone. I had only a vague clue of where they might have gone (she had said her mother lived somewhere in the south but not where).
The loss of my child nearly destroyed me. I fell into use of drugs and alcohol for quite a bit and was back and forth for quite a while between stability and relapse.
During all that time I never gave up hope of contacting and finding them. I'd regularly use the internet scouring for them (even though at some times I probably was not in the best mind to do so).
Some years ago I was drunk and hit upon the mother of my girlfriend. I did contact her but only that night and never spoke to her again as I had been very blitzed.
Forward to today, I've been on the straight and narrow for a good number of years now. I've located my former GF. Through the links from her friends lists and pages I've also located my child. My child is now 20 years old and married.
It appears my ex-GF ran to Mississippi and raised my child. My child now lives in Kentucky with their spouse.
I would like to establish contact but I am concerned as to the risk of possible lawsuits for back child support. I do not know of any awarded Child Support order and it may be very likely that the mother never tried to get any Child Support.
The concern I have is now that I am an established person doing well, supporting my current family. I now have a wonderful wife who dragged me up out of those dark times and made me live again. Such a suit could possibly damage or hurt my current family which is something I do not want to happen.
So, can I be sued for Back Child Support (not support in arrears since I do think no child support was ever awarded)?
Thanks in advance for your time and insight.
Hopeful,
NJ DAD
About 20 years ago I had a child with someone who I was very much in love with while both living in NJ. I was named on the birth certificate (and was there for the birth) and fully believe and agree that I was/am the father. My child was given my last name. We fought quite a bit after our child was born. Mostly about money and living conditions as we were young, dumb, and not really ready.
One day I came home from work to find my girlfriend and our child gone. I had only a vague clue of where they might have gone (she had said her mother lived somewhere in the south but not where).
The loss of my child nearly destroyed me. I fell into use of drugs and alcohol for quite a bit and was back and forth for quite a while between stability and relapse.
During all that time I never gave up hope of contacting and finding them. I'd regularly use the internet scouring for them (even though at some times I probably was not in the best mind to do so).
Some years ago I was drunk and hit upon the mother of my girlfriend. I did contact her but only that night and never spoke to her again as I had been very blitzed.
Forward to today, I've been on the straight and narrow for a good number of years now. I've located my former GF. Through the links from her friends lists and pages I've also located my child. My child is now 20 years old and married.
It appears my ex-GF ran to Mississippi and raised my child. My child now lives in Kentucky with their spouse.
I would like to establish contact but I am concerned as to the risk of possible lawsuits for back child support. I do not know of any awarded Child Support order and it may be very likely that the mother never tried to get any Child Support.
The concern I have is now that I am an established person doing well, supporting my current family. I now have a wonderful wife who dragged me up out of those dark times and made me live again. Such a suit could possibly damage or hurt my current family which is something I do not want to happen.
So, can I be sued for Back Child Support (not support in arrears since I do think no child support was ever awarded)?
Thanks in advance for your time and insight.
Hopeful,
NJ DAD
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