roadking00
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Jersey
Ok folks, long story and will try to stay with the facts to see what the potential consequences could be for my friend. And I’m sure I will miss some needed details for sound advice which I will try to give if I know it? Anyhow, we will just call my friend Sue…
Sue is a mother of 3, married for 18+ years, both parents worked. She decided to terminate the abusive relationship (should have reported abuse many times but was apparently too scared?) He moved out of the family home in 2011-12 sometime (moved in with his father) Oldest son 20+ at the time still at home but shortly after had his own place, middle son 18 now, youngest son is 14 now. After the divorce she decided she could no longer support the mortgage & house bills herself much longer (no child support was being paid, court ordered but not paid, still $5000+ arrears) so she felt it would be best for the youngest to be able to continue to live in the house till he went through HS (good area/school system) but in order to do that she asked if the father would want to move back in and take over the house if she moved herself into an affordable place in the area (not the same county or school district because she would not be able to afford much on her single income) So he/she agreed and things went downhill for her worse from there.
In the divorce the house should have been put on the market and equity split, he agreed when the house sold he would get a place for him and the 14yr old/18yr old in the same town/school district to not disrupt the youngest in his HS years. The kids started not seeing mom as much of course being out of the house and eventually the 18yo was busy with his own stuff growing up/working etc. and chose to do other things at that age then go to moms for the visitation days allotted from the original agreement and just come/go as an adult at the family home (typical in my eyes).
Sue had a few obstacles since moving out on her own (financially) paying lawyer fees, etc. to work through the divorce details etc. and seemed to be a never ending retainer that kept getting increased due to the long drawn out process. Eventually got to the point where she needed to move in with her mom and go through the bankruptcy process…now has a 2nd job just to try to get ahead somehow and find a place of her own once again. This whole time no arrears or any monies have been paid to her even after filing motions with the courts and the judge siding on her side to be paid as it was originally court ruled, as well as a shared CC balance he was ordered to pay her half for and never did hence the bankruptcy proceedings she went through.
The father has now (via lawyer’s) filed a motion against her and is looking for CS for the 14yr old that is in the family home for the past 6-8 months without mom and of course the courts go by earning of the W2’s of both parents, in which the father makes most of his money off the books (illegally yes) his normal day job only pays him 12K annually on the books, not even enough to pay the property taxes on the family home after taxes are deducted (nice expensive area of NJ as mentioned already) he’s a construction contractor that makes 100k easily a year not seen by the IRS (yes a crook I know).
So yes, based on his W2 of 12K and Sue’s of 40-45K with both jobs, she now will have the courts start wage garnishment for the 14yr old at just about $200 per week when she brings home 500max a week home, I assume the courts figure these numbers not even considering what taxes come out of folks checks and just calculate based on gross not net? Similar as applying for a mortgage?
As wrong as this seems, I believe she is getting ran over (legally) due to the facts of the W2’s reported. Seems like he is paying a pretty penny for his lawyers to push all this through for someone that only make 12K a year, is there not a way the courts would ask for detailed proof on how he is possibly paying all his normal bills in that area when only making 12K a year ?
She has 0 monies for lawyer fees to even get advice or any help at all.
What if she were to lose her job/jobs as she gets depleted by garnishments and can no longer survive?
Is she basically forced to live with her mom the next 4 years because he can lie about his actual income?
So many other questions I’m sure will come up but this is a long enough post for a start I guess…….
Thanks in advance,
Friend of Sue
Ok folks, long story and will try to stay with the facts to see what the potential consequences could be for my friend. And I’m sure I will miss some needed details for sound advice which I will try to give if I know it? Anyhow, we will just call my friend Sue…
Sue is a mother of 3, married for 18+ years, both parents worked. She decided to terminate the abusive relationship (should have reported abuse many times but was apparently too scared?) He moved out of the family home in 2011-12 sometime (moved in with his father) Oldest son 20+ at the time still at home but shortly after had his own place, middle son 18 now, youngest son is 14 now. After the divorce she decided she could no longer support the mortgage & house bills herself much longer (no child support was being paid, court ordered but not paid, still $5000+ arrears) so she felt it would be best for the youngest to be able to continue to live in the house till he went through HS (good area/school system) but in order to do that she asked if the father would want to move back in and take over the house if she moved herself into an affordable place in the area (not the same county or school district because she would not be able to afford much on her single income) So he/she agreed and things went downhill for her worse from there.
In the divorce the house should have been put on the market and equity split, he agreed when the house sold he would get a place for him and the 14yr old/18yr old in the same town/school district to not disrupt the youngest in his HS years. The kids started not seeing mom as much of course being out of the house and eventually the 18yo was busy with his own stuff growing up/working etc. and chose to do other things at that age then go to moms for the visitation days allotted from the original agreement and just come/go as an adult at the family home (typical in my eyes).
Sue had a few obstacles since moving out on her own (financially) paying lawyer fees, etc. to work through the divorce details etc. and seemed to be a never ending retainer that kept getting increased due to the long drawn out process. Eventually got to the point where she needed to move in with her mom and go through the bankruptcy process…now has a 2nd job just to try to get ahead somehow and find a place of her own once again. This whole time no arrears or any monies have been paid to her even after filing motions with the courts and the judge siding on her side to be paid as it was originally court ruled, as well as a shared CC balance he was ordered to pay her half for and never did hence the bankruptcy proceedings she went through.
The father has now (via lawyer’s) filed a motion against her and is looking for CS for the 14yr old that is in the family home for the past 6-8 months without mom and of course the courts go by earning of the W2’s of both parents, in which the father makes most of his money off the books (illegally yes) his normal day job only pays him 12K annually on the books, not even enough to pay the property taxes on the family home after taxes are deducted (nice expensive area of NJ as mentioned already) he’s a construction contractor that makes 100k easily a year not seen by the IRS (yes a crook I know).
So yes, based on his W2 of 12K and Sue’s of 40-45K with both jobs, she now will have the courts start wage garnishment for the 14yr old at just about $200 per week when she brings home 500max a week home, I assume the courts figure these numbers not even considering what taxes come out of folks checks and just calculate based on gross not net? Similar as applying for a mortgage?
As wrong as this seems, I believe she is getting ran over (legally) due to the facts of the W2’s reported. Seems like he is paying a pretty penny for his lawyers to push all this through for someone that only make 12K a year, is there not a way the courts would ask for detailed proof on how he is possibly paying all his normal bills in that area when only making 12K a year ?
She has 0 monies for lawyer fees to even get advice or any help at all.
What if she were to lose her job/jobs as she gets depleted by garnishments and can no longer survive?
Is she basically forced to live with her mom the next 4 years because he can lie about his actual income?
So many other questions I’m sure will come up but this is a long enough post for a start I guess…….
Thanks in advance,
Friend of Sue