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11-05-2009, 11:48 AM
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Originally Posted by Hisbabygirl77  Dog, your so silly. Cant you see that this is his girlfriend and mother of his child and they are trying to find a way to lower his support to first child. So this one says hey wait! Lets try getting child support set up for our daughter act like we arent together hopefully that will be calculated and lower the first babies mom's support and then the money will just go back to us through child support for second child. Really dog its all so simple!  | okay HBG! YOU WIN! |
11-05-2009, 12:38 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Yes, he can afford to take care of them once CS stops robbing him.
And YES, there IS day care. She gets state aid for child care, title 20, so she doesn't pay a dime and drops her kids off there everyday so she can sit on her fat butt all day. | IMO he isn't paying enough... 
and hello the state is paying child care... thus he is NOT..
ditto HBG... you win big time... 
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11-05-2009, 12:45 PM
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| | The IA mom isn't getting that money, the state is. Somebody's got to repay the state for all those benefits so the taxpayers aren't on the hook. 
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11-05-2009, 01:00 PM
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| | | so then child support is collected - daycare is deducted for whatever amount that state would charge/collect for/from Dad, and the remaining money goes to Mom ?
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11-05-2009, 02:24 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Another thing about my situation; the mother of his other child in Iowa; she doesn't work because she just doesn't want to, she has 2 other kids, she's on Welfare, WIC, gets section 8 housing, food stamps, and god knows what else AND $450/month from him. | Quote:
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so then child support is collected - daycare is deducted for whatever amount that state would charge/collect for/from Dad, and the remaining money goes to Mom ?
| Since IA Mom is getting all sorts of government assistance (beyond daycare), I doubt very seriously that she's seeing much of the CS that Dad is paying to IA.
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11-05-2009, 02:26 PM
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Originally Posted by TheGeekess The IA mom isn't getting that money, the state is. Somebody's got to repay the state for all those benefits so the taxpayers aren't on the hook. | Yeah I know that's how it's supposed to work, but for some reason in this case it's not. She gets the full amount of support that gets taken out of his check. She never sees any back support payments he's made so maybe they use that to repay the state benefits? I have no clue except that she said she gets all payments in full... except sometimes it's late but she gets it. Admin mistake? I have no clue. |
11-05-2009, 02:34 PM
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| | | By the way..you know the information provided to you way back on the first page?
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11-05-2009, 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Dogmatique By the way..you know the information provided to you way back on the first page?
You're welcome. | Yeah, I've been to those websites but didn't find a specific answer about my situation; that's why I came here. Thanks for the effort though!! |
11-05-2009, 02:44 PM
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| | | The reality is that there is NOTHING that you can do about case #1. If you file, they will take into account the amount of Case #1.
It is TOTALLY up to dad to file for a modification of CASE #1.
But explain to me why child number 1 should NOW get less because there is child number 2? Until child #1 is 18, you will continue to get what is left after they account that child support order.
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11-05-2009, 02:50 PM
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Originally Posted by TinkerBelleLuvr The reality is that there is NOTHING that you can do about case #1. If you file, they will take into account the amount of Case #1.
It is TOTALLY up to dad to file for a modification of CASE #1.
But explain to me why child number 1 should NOW get less because there is child number 2? Until child #1 is 18, you will continue to get what is left after they account that child support order. | Because Daddy didn't bother to do what he was meant to do, and now he's stuck paying more than OP thinks he should be paying for first kiddy....
(I'm guessing, of course)
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11-05-2009, 03:44 PM
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Originally Posted by TinkerBelleLuvr The reality is that there is NOTHING that you can do about case #1. If you file, they will take into account the amount of Case #1.
It is TOTALLY up to dad to file for a modification of CASE #1.
But explain to me why child number 1 should NOW get less because there is child number 2? Until child #1 is 18, you will continue to get what is left after they account that child support order. | Child #1 is getting more than she should. Dad did not give his financial info when he was supposed to so the set it at a very high amount; hundreds more a month than he would be if they looked at his actual finances. That's what I was asking; if since he didn't submit his info if he would still be able to get a modification. It didn't appear so based on the info on the website. That's why I came here... |
11-05-2009, 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Child #1 is getting more than she should. Dad did not give his financial info when he was supposed to so the set it at a very high amount; hundreds more a month than he would be if they looked at his actual finances. That's what I was asking; if since he didn't submit his info if he would still be able to get a modification. It didn't appear so based on the info on the website. That's why I came here... | when dad cares enough.....THEN he can come here. |
11-05-2009, 03:47 PM
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| | | You've stated before that dad has to wait 24 months for a modification since he chose to ignore official documents. There are consequences to actions.
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11-05-2009, 03:52 PM
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Originally Posted by TinkerBelleLuvr You've stated before that dad has to wait 24 months for a modification since he chose to ignore official documents. There are consequences to actions. | He didn't exactly ignore the documents; he was inbetween homes and where his mail went he didn't check it until it was too late. Yes, of course that was his huge mistake. But is it really necessary for him and the rest of his family to suffer for 2 whole years?? I made this point before; it would make sense if he had to pay a fee to get another chance at submitting his docs, but to have to serve a 2 yr sentence to this is insane! Think of it this way; what if the mother was supposed to submit info but she just couldn't get to it in time so they set her support hundreds of dollars LESS than what she truly deserved. Wouldn't you think CSS would be willing to modify the order when she came forward? I would. Of course I don't make the rules and I obviously don't know them so that's what I came here to find out. |
11-05-2009, 04:25 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 He didn't exactly ignore the documents; he was inbetween homes and where his mail went he didn't check it until it was too late. Yes, of course that was his huge mistake. But is it really necessary for him and the rest of his family to suffer for 2 whole years?? I made this point before; it would make sense if he had to pay a fee to get another chance at submitting his docs, but to have to serve a 2 yr sentence to this is insane! | But it's completely of his own doing - why should anyone else be held responsible?  If anyone has given his other family a "sentence" of any kind it's him, you know? Quote: |
Think of it this way; what if the mother was supposed to submit info but she just couldn't get to it in time so they set her support hundreds of dollars LESS than what she truly deserved. Wouldn't you think CSS would be willing to modify the order when she came forward? I would. Of course I don't make the rules and I obviously don't know them so that's what I came here to find out.
| I wouldn't expect that, no - she'd have to go through the same rules as everyone else.
Kind of like we all have to do.
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